Clergy Letter - The Parish of Boxmoor

Letter from the Vicar – November 2024

Dear Friends,

November always feels like the remembering month. We begin the month by celebrating All Saints’, and then we quickly move to All Souls’, and then, of course, there are our Acts of Remembrance around Armistice Day.

When we remember, it is often with the joy of a cherished time being brought back to our minds, but with the sadness that that time is now past – that it can only be revisited in our memories. The memories themselves bring a smile to our faces yet are often tied up with a ribbon of grief because some of the people at the heart of that memory have died. It is not always easy to do so, but it is important that we know it’s okay to hold that joy and pain together – to find moments of light and laughter in the darkness – because both the joy and the pain come from the same source: love. If we didn’t love, we wouldn’t grieve.

Whilst the death of someone we love is painful, we may find ourselves grieving other things too. We might be struggling with all sorts of other losses at the moment. The loss of a relationship. The loss of who we ‘used to be’ before age, injury or illness changed things. Maybe we have had to leave a home or friends behind as our circumstances change, and their loss hits us more than we had imagined.

In our remembering we have to come to terms with a new way of being and not to get stuck in our longing for the past. Our remembering – however slowly we do it, however long it takes – must be part of our re- forming, our re-grouping, our re-emerging. As we go through this, we can be reminded that in faith God is with us and holding us. God is there when it feels darkest, and because He is there, there is light. Maybe just a flicker at first, but even a flicker of light makes a huge difference to our darkest time. As the light grows, it beckons us forward. However, the light doesn’t deny our grief, rather it illuminates it and helps us to find new ways to be, new ways to live with and despite our loss, new ways to find the balance between joy and pain.

It is no accident, I think, that our season of remembering moves into our Advent season of waiting for the light – and ultimately the explosion of the light into the world at Christmas, the light that is Jesus. My prayer is that you will trust that His light is there for you, today and always.

“The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness did not overcome it”

(St John 1: 5)

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – October 2024

Dear Friends,

Come, ye thankful people, come, raise the song of harvest-home!
All is safely gathered in, ere the winters storms begin.

These are words which many, throughout the land, will sing over the forthcoming weeks at various Harvest Festivals. To my mind they express the core concern of Harvest Festival namely that of giving thanks to God for the provision of a bountiful harvest and for the gift of our farmers who cultivate the land on our behalf.

In our society at present, it is all too easy for us to forget just how much we depend on the farming community for the provision of our food. I dare say, the majority of us shop at big supermarkets (or even online), filling our trolleys with all kinds of delights because this is the most convenient way we know of providing for our households. But there is a drawback to these ‘sterile’ environments. That is that we tend to forget that the produce in these stores had to come from somewhere, they had to be grown and harvested by someone or made from crops already harvested, and yet there is little evidence or acknowledgement of this in our shops. Our supermarkets have a way of dis-associating us from the farming community. It is unlikely that, as we put a bag of carrots into the trolley, we are prompted to say thank you to God for the provision of this crop and for the farmers who produced it. And one can understand why. If we did, our weekly shop would take three, maybe four-times as long.

But another reason exists. Our stores provide us with such choice all year round, so that nothing is ever out of season. Consequently, the seasons no longer mean as much to us, the consumer. There is a real danger developing a society of people not understanding the times and seasons and just expecting food to be in the stores at their beck and call and not realising that all food is a gift of nature. Thankfully, through living where we do we are reminded of the seasons daily, by being able to look at nearby fields and by seeing the activities of the farmers. We are fortunate to still be in contact with the farming community and the rhythms of nature, and as a result, Harvest means something to us.

Our Churches will be beautifully decorated as a way of expressing our thanks to God for the harvest and there will be Feasts where we enjoy the first fruits of the harvest. But all this is done as a way of thanksgiving. For we have been fortunate in that our harvest has been safely gathered in, but a thought and a prayer must be given for those whose harvests have failed and now face a winter of hardship. Maybe as a people of plenty, we might be inspired by the example of Jesus and share what we have with those who have not.

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – September 2024

Dear Friends,

To my shame, I have realised that I have become relatively lax in sending people ‘Thank you’ letters on receiving gifts or acts of kindness. As a child, my parents drilled me and my siblings to always write and say thank you (and Emma and I are doing our best to instill the same courtesy and respect into our girls). But I have noticed this seems to be a dying trend. Are we just getting busier and therefore a quick email, text message, or conversation is seen as performing the same function? More often than not these are now my go-to ways of corresponding but I’m not convinced it is better or carries the same depth of sentiment as an actual letter/card. Are we less ‘thankful’ for acts of kindness and gifts? I don’t think so, although there is certainly a growing air of entitlement in our wider society.

When I arrived in the Parish 10 years ago a regular congregant observed that our prayers of intercession were becoming a ‘please do this list’ to God with very little thanksgiving for all of God’s blessings to us. I hope this has changed for the better over the last decade, but even still the temptation to ask rather than give remains high.

Of course, the prayers of intercession on a Sunday morning are offered within the Eucharist, which itself is a service of Thanksgiving (that’s what the word actually means). During the service we follow Jesus’ example in giving thanks to our heavenly Father for the bread and wine he has caused to grow and be produced and for the way it becomes the Body and Blood of Christ – the food of the new Kingdom, where sin and death are no more – which sustains us in our journey of faith.

And at Choral Evensong the Prayer Book bids us “most chiefly so to do, when we assemble and meet together to render thanks for the great benefits that we have received at his (God’s) hands, to set forth his most worthy praise, … and to ask those things which are requisite and necessary, as well for the body as the soul.”

Our worship encourages us to be thankful and to recognise all the blessings so lavishly bestowed upon us. And in response to this abundant generosity, our liturgies also invite us to think of ourselves and others and how we might be able to give or help those in need. The route of all this though is God’s generosity. It starts with God. But it does require us to have our eyes and ears open to see and hear God’s blessings at work in our lives, in the Church, and in the world around us. Perhaps that is the potential problem – as a society we have become less attentive in looking for, or hearing God’s involvement and goodness around us. Perhaps we have grown blind or deaf – or selectively so – and only have eyes and ears to hear what is going on in our lives? In our fast-changing world this is so easy to do. What might we need to do to regain our sight and the awe and wonder at God’s amazing generosity? How might we listen afresh to the stories of God’s involvement in the lives of those around us? Do we need to go to the Church’s equivalent of Specsavers?

This autumn, I for one, intend to reacquaint myself with the habit of thanksgiving. Perhaps you might like to do likewise.

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – August 2024

Dear Friends,

Sometimes you can get fed up with Church! Reports from the General Synod over the last few years and the resume of discussion points at the 2022 Lambeth Conference are usually about divisions and arguments. At first this all seems very depressing – especially when sensationalised in the media, but we need to be careful.

Public argument is not necessarily a bad thing. If church leaders are really addressing the real issues of the day – even if they are very difficult – it may be a good thing, especially if they are able to “disagree well”. The question therefore, is whether they are, in fact, addressing the right issues?

One issue that has received much attention over the last decade is the nature of marriage, and should the Church of England bless/marry same-sex couples. The General Synod at its most recent set of sessions in July in York affirmed once again that same-sex couples can have their civil marriage blessed in church, but not get married in church, despite calls from pro-campaigners to go further and from traditionalists to rescind this permission. Synod seems very polarised, even being described as “broken”!

Yet, if we permit our memories to recall, we will remember we are in a very similar position to that back in the 1980s when Synod voted to permit the dedication and blessing of marriage of divorcees in church whilst not technically permitting remarriage of divorcees in church until the early noughties (acknowledging that, in practice, remarriage was being offered). And now, just as then, Synod has said the matter is of individual ministerial conscience as to whether a minister will conduct such a service.

While a lot of progress has been made, there is still a long way to go – probably another 20 years of debate – much of it public. If our Church leaders are confronting the issue and the way we should be going we should be praying for them as encouraged by St Paul as they contend with a fundamental truth. But some would say that that is not what is going on at all. They would argue that it is about the Church trying to be politically correct and show how in-touch and relevant the Church is with the world.

They might claim that it is letting the world set the agenda instead of the gospel.

All this demonstrates a wider debate going on at present about the relationship of the Church within the world. This debate is about knowing when it is right to criticise the society around us and certain changes we might observe, and when is it right to listen to the world and sometimes welcome the changes that occur. You could apply these questions to a lot of issues that face us including those concerned with medical ethics and the rise in AI technology.

But one thing we cannot do is opt out. The Church of God is here to continue the work of Jesus Christ in the world. It is the Body of Christ. The path it treads is never going to be even or easy, but it has to tread it. Jesus never promised his disciples an easy life. Rather he warned them that they would find themselves in conflict with others sometimes. The present time is not a time for getting fed up, but for being open to the Holy Spirit of God who, in the words of St John, “leads us into the truth”

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – July 2024

Dear Friends,

Many years ago, during my curacy in Dartmouth, I was standing on a street corner collecting money for Christian Aid during Christian Aid Week. Whilst collecting, a young man came up to me and asked if I was a Christian. The question was posed to me whilst dressed in my traditional black clerical collar with a red sash across my chest emblazoned with the words “Christian Aid”. Assumptions might lead us to think this person had never come across an Anglican priest and perhaps was from a non-Christian background, but no! He was using the word “Christian” in a very particular way. On another occasion, very recently, I was told that there are very few Christians left in Hemel – or at least so she thought! Again, she was using the word in a very particular way.

These little incidents show how much the word “Christian” has changed for some people. Language is not static and words go on changing, and we need to be alert to the possible misunderstanding as change happens.

According to the Book of Acts, Christians were first called “Christians” at Antioch. The word applied to them by outsiders because they followed Jesus Christ. It appears that they thought that “Christ” was a name rather than a title. The word only occurs on two other occasions in the New Testament.

Nowadays there seems to be three main uses of the word: One is for a particular sort of follower of Jesus. The characteristic features of this approach to the word “Christian” include a tendency towards a literal view of scripture, a strong emphasis on the gifts of the Holy Spirit, a fairly conservative approach to ethical issues, and a belief in local churches rather than the Church universal. Those from this tradition often regard Anglican clergy as a ‘bit iffy’! They see me/us as too institutionalised and a bit liberal when it comes to scripture and ethics.

Secondly at the other extreme, is the use of the word “Christian” to mean “generally good”! Those who say that you do not have to go to church to be a Christian, usually mean that you do not have to go to church to be a good living person. They may have general belief in Jesus Christ, but they do not put it into words and it is very ill defined. For them, the word “Christian” has a very wide meaning.

Thirdly, is the use of the word by all who try to follow Jesus Christ and are baptised into his Church. This is the view many of us favour. By “Church” we mean any of the main orthodox Christian communities. It is right to have a broad definition, but also some boundaries. It is not our job to decide who is ‘in’ and who is ‘out’. That’s God’s business – not ours! This is not a matter of watering down the faith so that it means all things to all people and next to nothing. Rather, it is always the Church’s task to preach the Gospel in a way that is engaging and challenges us all at the deepest level. It is also the task of the Church to welcome all, who, in the words of the Baptism service, “turn to Christ”.

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – June 2024

Dear Friends,

The sun is shining whilst I write this – a rarity I know! But the sunshine has brought back memories of the 2012 London Olympics – already over a decade ago. Although I have fond memories of watching hours and hours of sport – some in person – and the success of so many British athletes, one of my lasting memories of the London games was the organising committees desire to build a legacy that would last for years to come. They wanted their buildings and infrastructure to regenerate local areas and provide world-class facilities for future generations of British athletes to train in. They wanted sport to be accessible to all and invested in grass-root sport, encouraging all people to be more active – especially children. And by and large they were successful in their aims, and hopefully later this year we will see more British athletic success at the Paris Olympics.

But this notion of legacy making has got me thinking. We are currently enjoying a year of Jubilee, which is all well and good, but is that all it will be? A year of celebration? Surely there has to be more than that? What legacy do we hope this Jubilee will establish within our Parish? What is our vision for the future? How can we continue to Live God’s Love in this community, as our Diocesan initiative puts it? These are questions I recently put to our PCC as our Mission Action Plan (MAP) – an active document showing which areas of ministry we will prioritise for a designated period – is due for renewal this year.

Living God’s Love encourages us to go more deeply into God, make new disciples, and transform communities. Over the last decade have had varying degrees of success with all these strands but where do we want to take them now? How can we continue to know God more fully? How to we encourage new Christians (and those enquiring about the Christian faith) to be more active in their discipleship of Christ? How can we continue to work to transform this community for the better? These are questions we all need to be asking ourselves. But there are other questions we need to ask too. How can we make ministry sustainable in this Parish? Are there things we are currently doing that we need to stop doing so as to make room for something else? What resources are needed? Are we financially sustainable and, if not, what might we be able to do to make it so?

I’m sure you will think long and hard about these issues and pray about them – for if God is not in them they will not succeed – and I hope after doing so you will proffer ideas to members of the PCC so that when we have our meeting in July (designated to discerning our legacy and future MAP) they/we may already be equipped to know what God is asking us to do in this place.

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – May 2024

Dear Friends,

It’s fair to say we have all experienced a ‘significant’ birthday or two over the years. For many the yearly reminder that we are getting older is not something we wish celebrated other than with muted mirth. It is a milestone, and it is noted, and then we carry on. But every 5 or 10 years a significant birthday appears and celebrations abound. Over the last year or so, it has been a joy to celebrate a number of ‘significant’ birthdays within the Church community with cake and joy.

This month we celebrate 150 years since the consecration of St John’s. It’s a big birthday. It’s time to celebrate! And there’s much to celebrate. This House of Prayer to God’s glory has been part of the lives of Boxmoor folk for generations; the walls echo with the silent music of their prayer and praise. Entire families have marked the milestone life-events of Baptism, Confirmation, Marriage, and Funerals, and have come to faith through the teaching and social life of the Church. The Church has stood for stability, dependency, and constancy in a world where things have changed at break-neck speed, whilst also gently moving forward to meet the challenges and opportunities of each generation.

Currently, the Church’s mission is to be a place of welcome and hospitality for everyone; where God’s name is worshipped and adored, and proclaimed with joy; and a place where we may grow in faith and discipleship. I suspect this has been the mission of the St John’s throughout its existence but perhaps there is a sharper focus now, knowing that we live in a much more diverse society and where faith (of any kind) is held by the minority. This was supported in the most recent Census and helps us to ask the question: if we are to be a visible Christian witness to this community for the next 150 years, what/who do we need to be doing/be? Over the next year we are going to produce a new Mission Action Plan to help us shape our vision for Christ in this community and direct our energies to serving God and his people. In recent years, through prayer and hard work we have achieved the majority of our goals. Now, once again, we need to look to the future. What kind of a Church community do we want to be, and be known for? How has our story shaped us for the future: what needs to remain and what needs to change? Where do we need to invest time and resources? What do we need to be praying for?

This can all sound a little daunting – just like it must have been daunting for founders and benefactors who built our Parish church. The unknown is always daunting. But it’s also exciting. What does God have planned for us as a Parish? Where do we need to be doing more? and where do we need to be doing less?

The psalmist wrote: “unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labour in vain.” God has built his Church here, and is continuing to bless us with growth and love and laughter. May that blessing remain with us as we strive to be Easter people in this community. For… … Alleluia! Christ is Risen. He is Risen indeed. Alleluia!

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – April 2024

Dear Friends,

Easter, for many, is a difficult time. We are asked to believe something we cannot explain and certainly cannot prove or disprove. The idea that someone rose from the dead is, for some people, ridiculous. Some will dismiss it as complete nonsense, while others may try to cope with it by watering it down a bit. They might say, for example, that the spirit of Jesus rose from the dead even though his body stayed in the grave. Others may say that he lives on in his followers, as they try to continue his work and complete his aims.

The interesting thing about these ideas is that they start with the difficulty of believing and are an attempt to produce something more acceptable and recognisable so that it will not be so hard to believe. We do well to be suspicious of such a process. If God is what we say he is, all powerful and totally beyond our understanding, we should be careful about trying to slim him down to fit our brains. It is always wrong to equate what we can understand with what is possible.

Of course we cannot prove it. It would be a lesser thing if we could, because it would be something we could contain within our minds. This does not mean that there is no evidence for the Resurrection. The main evidence is the Church. Some may believe it to be founded on a hoax or a delusion, but it is difficult to understand the survival and indeed the growth of the Church over the centuries if there was no real foundation for it. There have been, and continue to be, simply millions of people whose lives have been changed because they came to believe in the Resurrection.

Perhaps instead of wondering how we can cut down this belief to a more acceptable size, we should be asking a different question. Have we really realised how great and awesome this thing is? Belief in the Resurrection is not just belief in something that happened 2000 years ago in Jerusalem. It is believing in a living God, who is present and active in our lives. It is believing that ultimately God is greater than evil and that his purposes will one day be achieved. It is believing that we are always able to experience our resurrection through repentance and forgiveness.

The Resurrection was an historical event, but not just that. It is an insight into the nature of God and his purpose for the world. It represents the basic reason why Christians believe it is possible to live together in this world with hope, despite all the troubles which surround us in the world.

Wishing you all joy and hope in believing in the Risen Christ, for… … Alleluia! Christ is Risen. He is Risen indeed. Alleluia!

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – March 2024

Dear Friends,

As I write, Lent has only just begun. Yesterday we were marked with the sign of the cross, in ash, on our foreheads. And yet, by the end of March we will be celebrating afresh the greatest news ever told and professing with joy and boldness “Alleluia! Christ is risen. He is risen indeed. Alleluia!” The contrast is immense. And in between we will journey with Christ in his sufferings as well as spending time in prayer, reflection, meditation, and fasting as we seek to grow in our discipleship.

We know that Christ will rise again because we have been told about it and believe it. But so that we can reconnect with the story, the Church invites us to place ourselves back in time 2000 years – to encounter Christ’s death and resurrection as if we were there. Sharing in the joy of our King’s arrival into his own city on Palm Sunday; feeling the depth of despair brought on by betrayal, denial, and injustice on Maundy Thursday; experiencing the depth of pain and loss as we stand at the foot of the cross and outside the tomb where Jesus is laid on Good Friday; aching with grief on Holy Saturday in our desolation for our Lord’s death; and celebrating with joy and amazement at the empty tomb on Easter morning as news of Jesus’ resurrection becomes known.

In our Services these themes, events, and emotions are conveyed powerfully through music, word, silence, and action and thus we are able to experience and know again the enormity of Jesus’ sacrifice for all people – for you and for me. And I invite you all to walk with Christ this Holy Week.

But the story doesn’t end there. If it did we would not be Christians. The Gospel was told and re-told over and over again, in the power of the Spirit, so that we might share in it. So that we might know the Jesus who died on the cross to bring about forgiveness of sins and restore our relationship with God the Father. And in the joy of the resurrection we too are charged with living and proclaiming this Good News to this generation. There are many and varied ways for us to do this, and I hope that we, the Parish of Boxmoor in our year of jubilee will be re-energised and recommitted to sharing God’s love, forgiveness, and mercy with our community.

Happy Easter to you all (when it comes!)

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – February 2024

Dear Friends,

This year Ash Wednesday and Lent follow hard on the heels of Christmas and Epiphany we have only one Sunday between the two seasons. Often this can make us feel a little bit rushed. No sooner have we celebrated the birth of the Christ child and put our decorations away than we are focusing on a season of self-denial and discipline, culminating in Christ’s death and resurrection at Easter. A child recently asked “did they take Jesus straight out of the crib and put him on the Cross?” We could be forgiven for thinking the same. Somewhere 30 years of Christ’s life have got lost from the record books.

And although the nearness of Lent and Easterto Christmas can be unsettling perhaps the proximity of these seasons and festivals this year can be to our advantage. Maybe it might help us to make the connection that it is the same person, God incarnate, lying in the manger and with his arms outstretched upon the cross. Perhaps we will remember more clearly that the child of Bethlehem whom angels, shepherds, and wise men adore is the same person whom the crowd of Jerusalem disown and condemn to die. Perhaps the depth of God’s love will be revealed more fully to us as we connect together the birth, death, and resurrection to new life as a promise and gift of God to all his children.

Of course, for some these dots have already been joined and none of these things may speak to you, but as we enter into Lent I hope and pray that this season may be a time of spiritual refreshment and growth for each of us. Whether this is through the traditional models of fasting, prayer, and abstinence, or through more contemporary models of taking on additional duties or studies, may the Lord bless you in your journey and relationship with him.

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – December 2023/January 2024

Dear Friends,

The end of one year and the beginning of next often provokes us to ask the big life questions and to assess where we are on our journey through life. We tend to look back on what we have achieved or accomplished or failed to do over the past year and say “What if…? If only…? Did I make the right decision?” whilst simultaneously looking forward, often making “Resolutions” on actions or commitments we hope to achieve in the coming year. This New Year will probably be no different and I have already made some resolutions for myself personally for 2024 – unsurprisingly eating fewer biscuits and taking more exercise are resolutions 1 & 2!

As a Church it is also important, from time to time, to look at what we have done and achieved, or failed to do, and to work out what we would like to do better or differently in the future. Indeed, as we enter our 150th Jubilee year it is particularly pertinent to be thankful for all that has gone before: for the parish clergy and all who led our witness these last 150 years and helped so many of us come to faith; for our relatives whose prayers and praises still echo silently in the very bricks and stones of St John’s; for our benefactors who caused St John’s to be built to God’s glory and adorned in such a way that it raises our hearts and minds to the Halls of Heaven; for our sustained position within our community (despite the dwindling role the Church now plays in the public sphere) where support, guidance, prayer, and friendships are especially valued.

But there is more we can do. During this coming Jubilee year, it would be fabulous if we could restore our Pastoral Care network – both within and without the Church. It would be fabulous to grow our links with young people (especially schools) and work more concertedly towards offering a Youth Club. It would be fabulous to grow our musical heritage and return to having a choral lead at all our services – but where this growth has come from our local community, old and young alike. There is more we can do in supporting Bibles for Children. There is more we can do to supporting refugees and asylum seekers. There is more we can do in caring for God’s creation and reducing our carbon footprint.

But ultimately the Church is here to bring and share the Good News of God’s love, as revealed in Jesus Christ, to the people we meet. Perhaps this Christmas and Epiphanytide we will once again be inspired and reinvigorated by God’s most generous act of deigning to come among us as one of us in the stable of Bethlehem, living as one of us in the streets and villages of Judea, teaching us the values of his Kingdom, setting us the example of love to follow, and giving us his gift of forgiveness through his death and resurrection. My prayer for us all this Christmas is that the Christ-child may find room in each of our hearts to dwell.

Happy Christmas and every blessing for the New Year,

Letter from the Vicar – November 23

Dear Friends,

Each November we spend the month remembering. We remember: the Saints of the Church – both formally recognised by the Church and those known to us locally – on All Saints’day (1st); our dear departed loved ones on All Souls’ day (2nd); the plot to blow-up Parliament and the King on Bonfire Night (5th); and all who gave their lives in the service of our Country on Armistice and Remembrance Sunday (11th). These are poignant yearly reminders of important people we have known and loved and whose memory we cherish; of witnesses to Christ whom we are encouraged to imitate in faith; of the folly of war and the horrendous loss of life armed conflict inflicts.

Remembering is good. It reconnects us to the past with the hope that we will learn from mistakes made and mature in joys shared. But remembering can also be painful. Of pains and hurts that have not fully healed; of forgiveness not given or received. Recently, the escalation of violence in Israel–Palestine has caused me to remember a pilgrimage I went on to the Holy Land nearly 20 years ago (itself an act of remembrance!). I condemn the violence committed, on both sides, to land and peoples that are so special, whilst remaining confused and perplexed as to why we have not learned the lessons of past times of violence? It is not hard to understand why tensions are riding high. For the Palestinians they resent people occupying their homes and land – often taken by force – and being ghettoised and controlled: their right to come and go, their water and energy supplies not to mention food and medical supplies. For the Israelis they feel constantly threaten by violent attacks and are baffled that the land they regard as their ‘promise’ is having to be shared. They assert their right to defend themselves after the horrors of holocaust and have built barriers and trained an army to squash any violence towards them. Hate and distrust of the other runs from generation to generation. And yet until both peoples are prepared to learn the lessons of the past there can be no peaceful future.

Many of the problems that now exist in the Holy Land also existed in the time of Jesus – we read about them each time we open the Bible. The same is true for Muslim and Jew when they read their sacred texts. Our Scriptures contain our shared heritage and the struggles and joys we, as people of God, have endured and celebrated. But our Bible not only recall past acts, it also looks forward – forward to a time when all creation will be united in God’s loving embrace; forward to a time when wars will be no more and all will be subject to Christ’s just and gentle rule. Perhaps it is also fitting that during this month of remembrance we also recall the Kingship of Christ during our observance of the feast of Christ the King on the last Sunday of the Church’s year?

May this month of remembrance bring us joy and hope in the midst of pain and sadness and may it remind us of the eternal promise of God: that he will be our God as we will be his people if we walk in the ways of his commandments and the love of his Son for all people.

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – October 23

Dear Friends,

Have you noticed how everything has to be personalised now? From personalised number plates and unique ring-tones and covers for our mobile phones to the way we have our coffee in a coffee shop; everything is tailored to the individual.

This is probably because we have come to place more and more emphasis on personal choice as the millennium draws on. It may also be that we now have the means to be distinctive and different with so much more choice available to us via the internet. In Andrew Marr’s book The History of Modern Britain he describes how, after the Second World War, people showed themselves discontent with the Government’s plans to be the provider of what they needed. They wanted more and more personal choice. That trend has certainly continued.

The Church has not been immune to these changes either: weddings and funerals are now far more personal than in the last century. Special readings or music which have personal associations or meanings for the couple or the bereaved are now the norm, likewise tributes are now given.

People do not want to be treated as if they were numbers. We want a personalised service. Is it not irritating to have to phone a call centre only to have it answered by a recorded message offering you a menu of options – sometimes not even with the option you need? I dare say most of us would prefer to speak to a real living person – but that costs money!

There is a healthy insight in all this, which should resonate with Christian people. There are plenty of cases in the New Testament of Jesus treating those he met as individuals, without preconceptions on his part. It is part of the way he taught us how God treats us. There is no doubt we are called to do the same.

There are dangers, however: We can over-emphasise the personal. Personal choices should be taken seriously, but they may not always be right. It is, for example, dangerous to say that faith is a matter of personal choice. In effect it is saying that what we believe in is just a matter of opinion. Also, it implies that it has no objective reality and is not rooted in real life and history. If we say that, where does truth come in? Also, we have to fit in with others and cannot always have what we choose.

Jesus’ summary of the Law could not be more applicable. When he urged us to love our neighbours as ourselves, he meant that we should treat others as people, just as we expect them to treat us as people. This is why we are baptised and confirmed by name – as people – and sent out to treat others in the same way. As we continue to consider the marks and Mission this month perhaps this needs to be built into our thinking and doing?

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – September 23

Dear Friends,

September is effectively the start of a New Year for many people. It is always a busy month with every group and committee in churches, schools and many other organizations the length and breadth of the country wanting to hold meetings so that they can make a ‘good start’. If you read through this magazine you will read of all the things we are planning to do in Boxmoor over the next month – and beyond. It can make you dizzy just reading about it all. And thinking about Christmas – well that will immediately set you in a spin.

So what is it with all this ‘busyness’? Why are we planning all these activities? And who are they for? As is so often the case, simple enough questions don’t lead to simple answers. Is all this for the benefit of the congregations of this parish? Well, yes. We will enjoy taking part in all the things that are planned for the coming months, whether it be a Patronal Festival, Harvest Festival, Messy Church, Confirmation Service, Remembrance-tide, a Christmas Tree Festival, the Christmas Fayre or a Carol Service or any other of the dozens of things scheduled to take place over the coming months.

But we are not planning these things just for our own benefit. We are planning them for the benefit of friends and neighbours, and members of the parish who we don’t even know – yet. We are seeking to invite people into the Church fellowship, to invite people into relationship with Jesus Christ. Why? Because having a relationship with Jesus Christ is something that we value; it is important to us and helps us in our lives, and so we want others to benefit from that relationship as we do. We want to travel with other people on a shared journey of discovery, and the sharing of that journey with other people of faith in our church fellowship is one of the most important things that we as a church can do.

So the question we should be asking ourselves as you read through all the events of the coming months is not ‘Do I want to come to that?’ But rather, ‘Who am I going to invite to come with me to this or that event?’ By approaching things from this angle we start to engage in the most fundamental activity of the Church – namely MISSION.

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – August 23

Dear Friends,

If someone were to ask what is the most worrying feature of current church life, some might say it was dwindling congregations, or the age of those who attend. These things may cause concern, although we should not believe everything we read about in the press about church attendance – ours is actually growing at the moment! But there is something else that is worse.

This is the clear reluctance of many to take on tasks within the church. There may be many reasons for this – and they may be linked to the age question – but there are also other factors. One is the apparent dislike of responsibility. People may feel they do not want to be the one that makes the decisions or who gets the blame if things go wrong. They may feel, rightly or wrongly, that they have “done their bit” already, possible elsewhere in an earlier life and it is therefore time for someone else to do the work.

These ideas and attitudes need to be looked at carefully. It could be that people have picked up some rather unhelpful contemporary attitudes. The Christian faith works within our culture and encourages and celebrates all that is good in it, but not all in our culture is good. In particular there is the tendency to think it is acceptable and even beneficial for us to be selfish sometimes. This is particularly clear in advertising, where we are often encouraged to think that we have a right to acquire luxurious things, have fabulous holidays, and own the latest electronic gadgets. To coin a phrase from a TV advert, it is the “because you are worth it” culture. Have you ever considered the phrase, “retail therapy”? It implies that self-indulgence is good for your health; a very doubtful idea. In this kind of cultural atmosphere, the idea of doing things for nothing and often unseen without thanks or recognition, is a bit strange.

In the Christian tradition there is something that flies in the face of this. It is the idea of sacrifice. The idea of voluntarily giving something that costs us is basic to our faith. The New Testament suggests that it is this, rather than self-indulgence, that really is good for us. It liberates us from self and enables us to contribute.

The whole life of Christ could be described as an act of sacrificial giving. His self sacrifice was extremely costly, in fact it cost him everything – but it made his resurrection possible.

In the future the Church is going to need more people to give their time unselfishly and to take responsibility without fear. There is no doubt about this. Clergy figures for the next few years can be predicted from the number of ordinands in training and those clergy reaching retirement age. It is highly probably that more parishes will be joined together and more and more lay people will have to take responsibility if the Church is to continue in every community. The future will be very challenging for church people. If we/they want the Church to continue in our/their community we/they will have to face the implications and decide on how much we/they are prepared to sacrifice our/their time and energy and also our/their material wealth to see it happen.

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – July 23

Dear Friends,

Last night, whilst doing the ironing, I watched the 2023 Richard Dimbleby Lecture given by the acclaimed actor David Harewood OBE. On the 75 th anniversary of the Empire Windrush arriving in Britain, David explored the challenges that were overcome by his parents’ generation and considered their legacy.

To my shame, as I listened to his engaging lecture, I realised that I knew very little about this period in British history. The name “Windrush” and the scandal which blew-up a few years ago regarding the right to live/remain in the UK were familiar but many of the details were not. It was therefore incredibly enlightening and saddening to hear the struggles the Windrush Generation endured as they answered the British Government’s call to the Empire for workers to come to the UK to help rebuild the country following the devastations of war.

The sheer level of racism this generation experienced was on another level to that which I have seen (or at least witnessed) in my lifetime in this country – it was akin to being in segregated South Africa or southern USA: signs saying “no blacks”; job offers being refused; poor and overcrowded housing, etc. Black people were readily excluded from society. Their imagined reality of starting a new life in the UK was a pipedream compared to what they experienced – including the dull-grey skies and coldness of our climate. To overcome this, they draw on their Caribbean heritage – coming together to share food, music, colour, love, and laughter. Despite the rise in xenophobic and racist rhetoric, the Windrush Generation remained united whilst doing all they could to integrate into wider society. In response to hate-fuelled riots in Tottenham and north London, members of the Caribbean community instigated a Carnival to bring joy and colour and friendship. The Notting Hill Carnival, as it became known, is now one of the highlights of London’s year!

The next generation – David’s generation – first generation British Caribbean, however, faced different challenges to their parents. A big challenge was one of identity and heritage. Their parents were Caribbean. But they were British. Although they had been influenced by some imported Caribbean culture they had grown up within British culture. David spoke movingly about being unsure as to what his identity was – he was an amalgam of both cultures. Like many, his mental health suffered but with therapy he has been able to carve a new path where he tries not to be defined by either culture and instead says “I’m me!”

Since hearing the Lecture I have been reflecting, theologically, on all he said – and how he said it. The first and obvious reflection is one of shame for the racism he and all migrants and subsequent generations to the UK have received. There are so many passages and instances in Holy Scripture when the psalmist/prophets/Jesus/apostles denounce bigotry and segregation, and rather affirm the uniqueness and sanctity of all life. All humanity is created equal in God’s sight and it’s high-time the nations and peoples of the world recognise this – our own nation included.

Secondly, there is something about our welcoming of the stranger and a sense of belonging. Again, there are too many verses to cite in this short letter but the Biblical imperative upon us is to welcome the stranger, orphan, and widow. To enable it so that those who are sojourners can belong and feel part of a community.

Thirdly, there is something about identity and from where or what our sense of identity or being comes from. As Christians we know that we are ‘to be in this world but not of this world’ as we are citizens of God’s eternal Kingdom. This should ultimately shape our identity. But more generally we are likely to gain identity from being European, British, Hemelites, and members of St John’s, St Stephen’s or St Francis’. The way in which we worship almighty God shapes our identity and who we are. Knowing who we are is important since we are known and loved by God – indeed he knows us even before we are born – and as such are known by name.

There is undoubtedly more to reflect upon, and I will do so over the coming days. Perhaps you might like to join me in reflecting upon some of these fundamental questions for our society and being members of the body of Christ.

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – June 23

Dear Friends,

On 21 June 1948, the Manchester Small-Scale Experimental Machine – the world’s first stored-program computer, ran its first program. 75 years on computers and computer programs are everywhere. From washing machines to telephones, games consoles to smart meters and thermostats, traffic lights to checkouts at the supermarket, computers and computer programs have become an intrinsic part of the way we live our lives in 21st Century society. As I write this I am on my computer with my mobile phone beside me and Alexa playing music. Technology has made significant advances in these last 75 years – many of which are for the better… or at least our convenience.

But you will no-doubt have heard in the News recently of the growing concerns over AI – Artificial Intelligence – computers and other technology that can “Think” for itself. Without meaning to scare-monger, I think a lot of these concerns are well founded – and that’s not because I want to maintain the status quo – but rather because I am worried about what advances in AI will mean for the globe, humanity, and indeed for all creation. What was once believed to be Science Fiction and ‘sensational’ at the Box Office is now becoming a present-day reality with little or no checks and balances, or regard to the implications this technology could have or to its misuse.

At university I went to see the film AI. Even then, 20 years ago, I was disturbed by the concept of ‘things’ replacing humans. I was reading Theology and Moral Ethics at the time, and I recall thinking ‘What is special about human existence?’ Although I am not an advocate of a literal interpretation of the Creation narratives in the Bible I am a believer in the God who loves us into existence; who creates, redeems, sustains, and encourages all life; who made humanity the guardians and stewards of his creation, charging us to love and look after one another and all creation; who longs to be part of our lives – if we let him; who chose to descend to Earth in the form of Jesus Christ so that we could come to know God in a new and exciting way, and so that all the complexity of human existence could be received into God’s-self at the Ascension of Jesus after his Resurrection.

To my mind, then and now, love was and is the big difference between humans and ‘things’. We have the capacity to love and receive love. It isn’t something that needs to be programmed into us but is something that just spontaneously happens and wells-up within us. Sometimes that sensation of love grows on us and can even take us by surprise, but I have never needed to be told ‘to love’. It is true that I have needed to be shown acts of love as ways to demonstrably portray love but not to actually love. Love of my family, of God, of one another and even of people I have never met, of nature – that all comes naturally – and I dare say it does for you too. Love connects us in ways that cannot be learned – only experienced.

But AI is not interested in love. AI technology is only interested in creating things that can ‘do’ things for itself not ‘feel’ emotions or connections. This is completely counter-cultural to a life of faith… and human existence. Sadly, it seems to me that these advances in technology are here to stay, and if this is true we need wise and strong leadership to help us navigate into the unknown ahead. I encourage you to pray for our leaders and captains of industry that they may make the hard but right decisions for all our futures.

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – May 23

Dear Friends,

As we celebrate and mark the Coronation of His Majesty King Charles III this month, it would be remiss of me not to mention it. Coronations do not come around very often (at least that has been my experience!). For the vast majority of people watching the Service from Westminster Abbey on TV on Saturday 6 May their highlight will be the actual crowning of King Charles with the St Edward Crown. I can testify to how impressive this crown is upclose. But for me (and I hope our new King) this will not be the highlight but rather the culmination of the coronation process. I hope the anointing will be the highlight. For during the anointing King Charles is set-apart for a distinctive calling – his vocation to be our King and supreme governor of the Church of England.

In former coronations this part of the service takes place under a canopy to stop onlookers seeing this most intimate and sacred moment: the moment when Charles accepts his sovereignty under God’s; when he acknowledges the heavy burden placed upon him to represent and speak for the people of this country and commonwealth, and to lead us; when the outward sign of anointing portrays the inner working of God’s grace to strengthen and equip him for the task and ministry that lies ahead. I wonder if the canopy will be used again at this coronation?

The anointing of kings goes back millennia. As we read in the Old Testament of Samuel anointing Saul as Israel’s first king and then David as his successor, or of Zadok the priest and Nathan the prophet anointing Solomon, oil was seen as a way of sealing-in God’s Spirit into his chosen servants. It was a lavish extravagance by which the recipient would ‘glow’ which was reserved for monarchs and the special role they were called to perform

Over time, but particularly during the Christian era, anointing came to be a symbol of God’s working in and for all his people. The Church has adopted anointing for the many during services of baptism, confirmation, and ordination, when the candidates – to varying degrees – offer themselves to God’s service. It is used during prayers for those who are sick or dying as a symbol of the healing, consolation, and renewed hope we have in Christ; that in him we may find peace and comfort and share in the fulness of his risen life. No longer is it the sole preserve of the monarch.

We, through our baptism and confirmation, have like King Charles been set apart for particular tasks and ministries within the Church and our wider society. Some of these will be complicated and demand a lot from us – perhaps even a lifetime, others are more simple and general – but equally as important. It is heartening that The King has asked the Nation to get involved in volunteering on the Coronation Bank Holiday. He is encouraging all of us to respond to the needs we see in our community and concerning our environment. He is asking us to show love for one another. Her is asking us to care for planet. He is asking us to respond to the call God places on our lives and to serve.

Many of us already serve this community in many and wonderful ways, but the question still remains what more can I do? What else could I do? What gifts can I use better in serving others? How can I respond to being set apart as one of God’s chosen ones? These are questions we all need to answer. For some it may be to spend more time in prayer. For others it might be writing to our politicians and lobbying them on behave of others. Perhaps it might be appropriate to volunteer for a charity, club, or society that helps the young or vulnerable, or even to take on more responsibility within the life of the Church. What are you discerning?

As we celebrate his coronation, may the Lord bless his servant Charles with long life that he may be a faithful servant to God and his people. For God save the King!

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – April 23

Dear Friends,

Time and tide wait for no man.

So wrote Geoffrey Chaucer over 600 years ago and yet the words and sentiment seem as fresh today as they did all those years ago. As a society we have recently marked the first anniversary of Russia’s invasion of Ukraine; the 20th anniversary of the outbreak of the Iraq War; and the third anniversary of Covid Lockdown rules being introduced and our enforced exile from Church, schools, friends, family, etc. The expectation when all these things began was that they would not last very long. But… The Iraq War lasted 8 years, and we are still reaping the consequences. Everyone expected Ukraine to fall within days or weeks of the Russian invasion yet it is still holding-out despite the overwhelming odds.

And then we come to Covid! In my mind I thought Lockdown was going to be a 3-6 week fire-break and the virus would disappear. I laugh at my ignorance now! 3 years later, the potency of the virus has diminished (thanks to the arrival of vaccines) but it is still present in our society. Although we are no longer living under the strict regulations the impact on our community is immense. Grief has not been properly processed; mental health issues are at an alarmingly high level; young children have not learnt how to socialise whilst older children and young adults have missed huge amount of schooling; businesses have closed; our NHS is exhausted and overloaded; Churches, faith communities, and voluntary organisations have lost their voluntary workforce due to a combination of Lockdown- enforced retirement, aging, new priorities, and mortality. Despite the re-opening of society, the Covid Legacy lives on. And I now suspect it will for another couple of years.

This all sounds very bleak and uncharacteristically pessimistic of me. Yet, these events have shaped our common lives – for good and ill – and it would be wrong not to recognise their lasting impact and the task that lies ahead to rebuild broken communities, heal hurting lives, and enable flourishing.

But there is one more anniversary to observe: the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ. This month, we will once again travel with Jesus to the place of rejection, isolation, pain, and death – Calvary – and lament that the sins which God incarnate was prepared to bare for our salvation are still being committed. We, along with all humanity, have a share in the wrong in the world around us – although hopefully to a lesser extent than Saddam Hussein, Vladimir Putin, and the like. We are culpable in not loving our neighbour as we ought. We are culpable in not loving God and serving him as we should. As a line from a modern hymn says: It was my sin that held him there, highlighting that it is not just the sins of our forebears and the political struggles of Jerusalem all those years ago that brought about Jesus’ crucifixion, but the sins and injustices of every time and place – including those times still to come – that led to Calvary.

But thanks be to God the sacrifice of Christ on the Cross is not the end of the story. As we celebrate Easter we rejoice in the resurrected Jesus who shows us that sin and death are no match for forgiveness and life… life in all its fullness. The resurrected Christ is timeless; it is for every time and place so that we may each, in our time and place, know that we are forgiven and loved and heirs of the resurrection promise. In Christ we can now call God, Father, and enjoy the intimacy of being fully known and fully-loved. Despite our manifold shortcomings we may know that the mercy of God looks kindly on us, and offers complete forgiveness where true repentance is found. Our sins no-longer lead to the grave but rather the grave of Christ leads to life and forgiveness.

This Easter I pray that the joy of the resurrected Christ is yours. Death and destruction do not have the final word, for that belongs to Love. May we therefore make this prayer our own:

Thanks be to thee, my Lord Jesus Christ,
for all the benefits thou hast given me,
for all the pains and insults thou hast borne for me.
O most merciful redeemer, friend and brother,
may I know thee more clearly,
love thee more dearly,
and follow thee more nearly, day by day.
Amen.

Prayer of St Richard of Chichester

For Alleluia! Christ is Risen!

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – March 23

Dear Friends,

Over the past 30 years the Church of England has very publicly debated matters of human sexuality and identity. From deciding whether to admit women to the holy priesthood and to the episcopate to same-sex marriages and issues of identity, the Church has faced schism and in-fighting as liberals and conservatives, traditionalists and modernists, male and female, straight and gay, and every position in between, have sought to advance their position.

Most recently this has centred on same-sex relationships. You may recall that last January and February, we (in collaboration with the wider Deanery) took part in the Living in Love and Faith conversations where we (and thousands of others throughout the Diocese and Church of England) prayerfully and respectfully listened to those with strong views on either side of the debate concerning human sexuality – and those with no fixed view – to try to determine what God’s Spirit was saying to the Church on this issue. After a year of collating and sifting the data, the Bishops of the Church of England have put to the Church’s governing body (General Synod) their recommendations, which were formally adopted at their meeting last month. You may well have seen this in the newspapers.

To sum-up, the Bishop’s reiterated the Church’s doctrine that Christian Marriage is between one man and one woman and therefore it would not permit same-sex marriages to be conducted by its clergy or in its churches. However, the Bishops acknowledged that since many clergy were already blessing same-sex marriages/relationships they felt this needed to be ‘normalised’ and they have now issued and provided official prayers and material for clergy to use in these services.

This is a typical Anglican fudge – trying to find the middle way. It has pained people on both sides of the debate and left many thinking that the Church either does not recognise them for who they really are and consequently is excluding them or does not take seriously the sanctity of marriage and Biblical teaching. These pains need to recognised. For what it’s worth, I welcome these new materials but lament that the Church has not gone further on this issue. I regret the Church’s official position that denies a Sacrament to any of God’s children and I pray that over the coming years God’s grace will continue to prompt the Church towards embracing same-sex marriage as well as bringing healing and consolation to all who are hurting over this issue.

As a Parish, we are now officially permitted to bless same-sex unions (provided it does not go against my (the Incumbent’s) conscience!). This is a natural extension of our open and inclusive nature to welcome and nurture everyone who comes through our doors. Every one of us is made in the image of God and loved by him, we are unique and cherished, and known by name. May God, in his grace and mercy, continue to enable us to welcome everyone and anyone regardless of gender, age, sexuality, or race to worship him. For God is love: and those who live love live in God, and God lives in them, and Whenever two or three are gathered together in my name, says the Lord, I am there in the midst of you.

May God continue to bless his Church, to love his people, to bring healing to the hurting, and to bring life to all.

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – February 23

Dear Friends,

This year Ash Wednesday and Lent follows hard on the heels of Christmas and Epiphany – we have just two Sundays between the 2 seasons. Often this can make us feel a little bit rushed. No sooner have we celebrated the birth and manifestations of Christ during Christmas and Epiphany (and put our decorations away) than we are focusing on a season of self-denial and discipline, prayer and study, culminating in Christ’s death and resurrection at Easter. A child recently asked “did they take Jesus straight out of the crib and put him on the Cross?” We could be forgiven for thinking the same. Somewhere 30 years of Christ’s life have got lost from the record books.

And although the nearness of Lent and Easter to Christmas can be unsettling, perhaps the proximity of these seasons and festivals this year can be to our advantage. Maybe it might help us to make the connection that it is the same person, God incarnate, who is lying in the manger and who has his arms outstretched upon the cross. Perhaps we will remember more clearly that the child of Bethlehem whom angels, shepherds, and wise men adore is the same person who is crowned with thorns and whom the crowd of Jerusalem disown and condemn to die. Perhaps the depth of God’s love will be revealed more fully to us as we connect together the birth, death, and resurrection of Christ to new life as a promise and gift of God to all his children.

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – December 22 – January 23

Dear Friends,

With the full re-opening of our churches over the last year, it is reasonable to expect that all our churches will, once again, be pretty full this Christmas. This will certainly be true of the services where children are involved. This is something to be thankful for and to celebrate, but there is a certain sense of unreality about it – despite our good and well-grounded work with young people through Junior Church, Junior Choir, Messy Church, Tiny Tots, and schools work. This comes partly from the sure knowledge that when we get to Good Friday the numbers will be nothing like as large – even though we hold a Stations of the Cross for children and families!

This sort of mirrors something in our society. This is the tendency to want good things without having to pay for them. For example, we sometimes hear of marriages falling apart after a ridiculously short time in which the couple could not possibly have put in the effort to make the relationship work. We hear and read of people who want to be famous without having achieved anything at all. Then there are those who expect our schools to make their children well behaved and high achievers without spending the necessary time with them themselves. Most of us are guilty of wanting better public services, both locally and nationally, but we resent having to pay more taxes especially now that services will be reduced thanks to the cost of living crisis! Many applaud the work done by voluntary groups and the Church (and often benefit from it), but do not want to take responsibility for it or take on the mundane regular tasks that make it possible.

All this is a gross over simplification of the picture, but there is nevertheless some truth in it. There is a tendency in contemporary society to want the benefits, but not the cost. Which takes us back to the popularity of Christmas compared to the response to Good Friday and Easter. Christmas is based upon two very attractive accounts of the birth of Jesus as told by St Matthew and St Luke in their gospels. It is associated with nice things like special meals, presents, parties, holidays, and joyful singing. The idea that this baby is the Son of God is a wondrous thing and it is right to celebrate it in our homes and in our churches, but it is not the end of the story. We cannot, and should not, forget what happened to Jesus and that he could only fulfil his vocation by enduring the terrible experience of death on the cross and subsequently being transformed through the resurrection.

In the life of Christ, we see absolute integrity and consistency, and a willingness to face the consequences. If we choose to look deeply into it, we may see an indication of something fundamental about/for our own lives. This is that we need to give if we want to receive. We are not likely to get “ought for nought” as some would say. What we get out of life depends on what we put into it. The most worthwhile things in life are not usually just handed to us on a plate, but that we need to work for them. And there is often a personal cost to face.

All this is not intended to suggest that we should not celebrate Christmas to the full. Of course, we should – especially this year as we are once again able to – but also and primarily because this is the start of God’s renewed mission of love as seen in the face of Jesus. This is the beginning of the most costly yet benevolent sacrifice ever made.

As we go out from our churches this Christmas, we should go into the New Year ready to practise our faith without fear of the consequences and be ready to face any costs it may involve.

Happy Christmas and every blessing for the New Year,

In Christ,

Letter from the Vicar – November 2022

Dear Friends,

A common theme in my letters to you of late has been change. As a society we are going through a period of immense change and instability: a new monarch after 70 years of faithful service; prime ministers and governments coming and going like revolving doors; political decisions being made and unmade with alarming frequency; high inflation and energy costs leading to an increase in the cost of living; changes to our national immigration policy; unions bringing industrial action against employers and inevitably disrupting our everyday lives.

It is tempting to want to retreat and hide-away hoping that it will somehow all be made well. It is also very easy for us to watch from the side-lines and criticise what is going on. The danger with both these positions is that we become slightly detached from what is going on believing that it is someone else’s mess or problem. It’s not. It’s our mess and problem. We might not have made it, but we are now living with it.

Nations and people, throughout history, have endured similar turbulent times. When Jesus was preaching and teaching in Palestine 2000 years ago there was political unrest due to the Roman occupation. St Paul in his letters to the early Church sought to encourage folk through these difficult times – and much of his writings are still pertinent to this day. For instance, in his letter to the Romans, he exhorts us to pray for our leaders as they have been entrusted with authority from God. As God’s people in this generation, I hope that is what we will be, and are, doing. Praying for our leaders – they can certainly use it! Prayers for wisdom, unity, integrity, compassion, honesty, humility, and guidance would not go amiss.

Politicians, like us, are human beings and will make mistakes. It’s what they do when they make them that matters. But we can also hope that through wise counsel they make fewer mistakes in the first place. Nobody is perfect. But we can trust that God, who is the pioneer and perfecter of things, can transform even the most horrible of situation into something that is life-giving and a blessing.

I encourage you to make November a month of prayer for our nation and our leaders

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – October 2022

Dear Friends,

These words, the second verse of Henry Lyte’s hymn Abide with me, seem very appropriate at the moment. So much has changed since my last writing to you. The nights are drawing in; trees are looking decidedly more autumnal; there is a nip in the air; grass is once again green; schools have returned to ‘normal’; a new Prime Minister has been appointed; and, of course, Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II has died and gone to glory thus ushering in a new age with Charles III as our new King.

All this change can be unsettling – even changes we know are coming. But I find it’sthe changes that are just hoisted upon us that are the hardest to cope with. Bereavement is notoriously the hardest change for us to accept as everything seems so final, so definitive, so filled with emotion. With the death of Queen Elizabeth the Nation/we have experienced the loss of someone who gave us tremendous stability when everything else was changing. In our own families, when someone dies, we long for the ability to make and share new memories, to touch and speak with those whom we love but see no longer. There is often a sense of despair and uncertainty regarding the future and an inability to see beyond the all-consuming grief of the present.

But one thing this hymn does, is it reminds us of the constancy of God. The God who created the earth and the heavens, and loved you and me into being, is the same God today, as he was yesterday, and the day before that, and the same God that will be in the days and weeks and years to come. God is steadfast and faithful. Our understanding of God’s nature may change, but he doesn’t. As Jesus reminds us many times in the New Testament, he (God the Son) will be us unto the end of time, through the power of the Holy Spirit – a promise I am certain he will not break. A promise that reminds us that God is both the God of the living and the dead; that even though we die we do not die eternal but rather rest in God’s eternal keeping.

There are, however, other changes that are not as final or as painful to bear as death, but yet need to be faced or addressed. Some of these changes come with age; with decreased mobility or independence; with changes in circumstances. It’s not easy to let go of things or positions or status. But by doing so new life can be born and nurtured. Within our Parish we are undergoing a period of transition as new volunteers are sought to take on roles within our common life newly made vacant because of the impact of the pandemic. We are seriously looking at how, with God’s help, we can plan for the future, inviting folk to prayerfully consider what roles or responsibility they could shoulder for the benefit of us all. Do not be surprised if you get a tap on the shoulder asking you to consider something or other. It would be a sad indictment of our community if a Church – the size and ability of ours – could not maintain our current activities. For…

“The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end. They are new every morning. Great is his faithfulness.”

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – September 2022

Dear Friends,

During the summer, my family and I headed to the south coast for some R&R. Whilst at the beach we went paddle boarding. For those who have never been or seen paddle boarding it is when you stand on a larger than normal, inflatable, surf board and use a paddle to propel you through the water. It is incredibly relaxing when there is a dead calm, but when there are waves or a swell it can be almost impossible. My balance is not that good at the best of times but being a typical bloke, I thought I could just do it without any practice – I mean, it looks so easy and effortless. It’s not! Needless to say, I got very proficient at swimming back to the board and climbing back up again. Gradually, with practice, my confidence grew, matched now by my learned ability to stand up and paddle without falling in.

In many ways paddle boarding is the closest thing I have come to being able to walk on water. Whilst standing on the board it really does seem like one is walking on water. Being fairly well versed in the Scriptures I was reminded of both the time Jesus walked on water and the time he called St Peter to come to him by to doing the same miraculous feat. The board made me conscious of being like St Peter: starting out with confidence… eyes fixed on the horizon; then, overcome by doubt that I could actually do this (and an unexpected wave), falling into the sea and sinking. Alas, for me unlike St Peter, Jesus was not on hand to pull me to safety.

You may be wondering what’s my point? It would have been all too easy for St Peter and me not to attempt to walk/stand on water. We could have been totally risk adverse and stuck with doing that which we already knew – staying in the boat/standing firmly on solid ground! Fear could have gripped us before we even tried. Fear of the unknown is all consuming and, in my case, would have prevented me from making some fabulous memories with my family and denied me the opportunity to enjoy God’s creation in a new, exhilarating, peaceful, and even prayerful way.

Over the last few years our society has been gripped by fear of Covid 19 – and rightly so as it has had devastating effects on every community – but it has been a fear that has crippled many of us from seeing new possibilities and the potential that is waiting to be unlocked. Although the pandemic is not over, the effects of Covid 19 are not as severe as they were at the initial outbreak thanks to the creation of vaccines and the mutating of the virus. We therefore need to get back to taking risks (calculated admittedly) and trying new things that will help us to live God’s love in this community. We need to be prepared to make mistakes, to fall off our paddle boards and then get back up and try again. We need to let go of the fear that stops us from talking about Jesus or welcoming new people into our worshipping community.

Fear can only destroy. But love, trust, joy, imagination, and courage – these can enable us to live and grow and try new things in the name of Christ. This autumn let us not be afraid to try something new.

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – August 2022

Dear Friends,

The recent hot weather took nearly all of us by surprise, despite all the weather warnings, because we’re so used to the weather forecast being wrong. The modern need to sensationalise everything has perhaps given rise to a culture of seeing and believing. As a child I remember hot summer days, parched meadows, and breathless nights. But mid-July was something else! We are told by scientists that this is what we are now to look forward to over the coming years as Global Warming changes our weather pattern. For many of us, 38C+ is just too hot. We are not used to extremes in temperature and yet that is the way things are heading unless real and radical change is made.

The Church of England, via our General Synod, has committed for the Church to be carbon neutral by 2030. This is an ambitious target which I cannot help but wonder how it will be achieved. And yet I applaud and commend the motivation and goal. There is so much more we, as a Church community, can do to reduce our footprint: from recycling and not using single-use plastics to sourcing food that is locally produced to reduce ‘food miles’; from turning the thermostat down a degree in our homes in winter to getting better insulation; from using our cars less to investing in renewable energy supplies. This is just the tip of the iceberg.

As a Parish, we have made it one of our MAP (Mission Action Plan) priorities to reduce our carbon footprint by 2024 and to take part in the Eco-Church initiative. This will only be achieved if we are capable of changing our thinking and actions, often through small steps in the right direction. Over the coming months you will therefore see some more Eco-friendly products being used around church; you may even be asked to consider car-sharing or perhaps even using your car less; we may need to think again about our sources of energy and heat. But why are doing this?

The obvious answer is because of Global Warming and the desire to preserve the planet. But for whom are we preserving it? Future generations? Yes… and God! As Christians we know that this earth is a gift from God and that we are charged to exercise stewardship. Sadly, our stewardship has been decidedly lacking in recent decades and our care for God’s gift – creation – negligent to say the least. Everything we have is a gift from God and yet we often take it for granted. Now is the time for us to get real about the imminent crisis we are facing and our lack of gratitude to the God who loves the world so much he came to earth to be one of us in the form of Jesus Christ.

Even if the science was inconclusive on this issue, our theology of a creator, sustainer, and redeemer God should motivate us to act – and act now. Our response to the command to love God and love our neighbour as ourselves must now be routed in action to combat the effects and causes of Climate Change. Together we can do this but we must each take a step in the right direction.

I hope you all have a very good and restful summer.

Every Blessing,

Letter from the Vicar – July 2022

Dear Friends,

Seeing Carters’ Steam Fair on the Moor has reminded me of one of my earliest memories of Boxmoor. 9 years ago this month I came here on interview to see if I would become your new vicar. After a guided tour of the Parish and the Vicarage I was shown into the Lady Chapel to be interviewed by the then Bishop of Hertford, Paul Bayes. During the interview he posed this question to me:

“The Steam Fair are on the Moor. You have gone over after Evensong and got on the Waltzers. The attendant sees your ‘Dog Collar’ and says ‘Being a vicar you obviously believe in God and Jesus. Why? And why should I?’ You have until the ride ends (3 mins) to convince him”

I forget exactly what I said in response, other than my saying something like it is in the face of Jesus Christ that we see the depth of God’s love writ large for all humanity; a God who wants us to have life in all its fullness; a God who loves and cares for each and every one of us despite our own failings; a God of compassion and forgiveness, a God who knows all our weakness and failings, joys and blessings because he too has walked this earth in Jesus, and thus shares in our pains and joys. Obviously, this – coupled with my other answers – were sufficient to convince the Bishop and other members of the panel that I was to be your next vicar.

But as I was giving my response to the Bishop’s question I can recall thinking of some words of Jesus:

“…do not worry about how you are to speak or what you are to say; for what you are to say will be given to you at that time; for it is not you who speak, but the Spirit of your Father speaking through you.” St Matthew 10: 19ff

I know many Christians who are terrified of the situation the Bishop was presenting to me – of sharing one’s faith and justifying it to someone. It is scary. But those words of Jesus are so true. I wasn’t expecting that question and yet I was given the words to speak. Even now I don’t have a pre-prepared answer to the question but rather a trust that the Spirit will give me the words needed for that time and place, with that individual or group.

The temptation is to run away. And if that isn’t possible to hide behind some piece of Church doctrine that we are just about able to drudge-up from the far recesses of our brain thanks to Sunday School. But that will never answer the question. The enquirer needs us to be real and authentic. They will see straight through us if we try to flannel like a politician on Question Time. They are after genuine relationship, integrity, and truth. And through the gifting of the Holy Spirit these things are given to us when we need them most.

As we continue to recover and rebuild from Covid lockdowns it is pleasing that in the last couple of months at least 5 new enquirers have made their way through our doors as a result of conversations like the one mentioned above. Our prayer is often that God would grow his Church. It seems to me that he is doing his bit in stirring the hearts those who seek. It’s now our job to trust that the Spirit will enable us to engage with these new people.

“Let anyone who has an ear listen to what the Spirit is saying to the churches.” Revelation 2: 29

May our ears be open; may our hearts be open; and may our mouths be opened to share the good news of Jesus.

Every blessing

Letter from the Vicar – June 2022

Dear Friends,

Vivat! Vivat Regina Elizabetha!

So sang The Queen’s Scholars of Westminster School, as part of the opening anthem I was glad by Parry, during Her Majesty’s entrance into Westminster Abbey for her Coronation in 1953. The sound filled the Abbey and expressed our nation’s earnest wish and prayer: Long live Queen Elizabeth!

69 years on from her Coronation, and 70 years since her accession to The Throne, it is fair to say that Her Majesty has indeed been blessed with a long life – a life devoted to the peoples of this land and Commonwealth. Her sense of duty, steadfastness, and faithfulness are the enduring characteristics by which she will be remembered and her reign celebrated.

As we gather over the Jubilee weekend with family and friends for street parties or ‘The Big Lunch’ we are given the opportunity to celebrate our remarkable and unifying monarch. It will be a joy to be able to celebrate this Jubilee with you. 10 years ago, for Her Majesty’s Diamond Jubilee, I was living in Westminster planning ways in which we could mark her 60 years of Coronation. Emma and I climbed the Abbey’s north Tower to get a unique vantage point of the River Pageant. Despite the rain and cold it was quite fun on the roof (maybe it was the Champagne that helped!) watching the proceedings below. I very much hope that the weather this time round will be more favourable and I hope you will be able to join our celebrations. Details of our Big Lunch can be found later in this magazine or on our Newsletter. I dare say many of you will be able to recall events of 70 years ago and how you celebrated then. In a nod to past we will be enjoying Coronation Chicken at the lunch.

May our prayer, joining those of long life for Queen Elizabeth II, be of thankfulness and gratitude for all she has been; has stood for; and will continue to be. God save The Queen!

Every blessing

Letter from the Vicar – May 2022

Dear Friends,

It is interesting to observe how wrong information gets about – Fake News as we have come to know it. Various Facebook pages and other social media are becoming famous for the speed of its communication, but not always its accuracy. The lesson is clearly that we need to check our facts and not just believe everything we are told. This is a principle that applies to everything – at least if we consider ourselves mature human beings.

It may surprise some to read that it applies to our faith. It is no good believing something just because someone said you should. What use is a faith that is swallowed without question? It is perfectly reasonable and sensible to ask for supporting evidence. Nothing plays into the hands of those who oppose and snigger at the Christian Church than the inability to say why we believe what we believe. This is not the same as saying that we can prove everything we believe. There are some things that are beyond the scope of human proof, such as the resurrection of Jesus. We cannot, no more than others can disprove it. On the other hand we can produce evidence for it.

The greatest evidence is the Church itself. How could it have survived the centuries of repeated human failing (and sometimes downright corruption) if it were simply a human invention? Somehow the Church has survived all the challenges it has faced (and its internal failures) and continues to grow world-wide. It goes on talking about the love of God. It is evidence that it is the Church of God and the means whereby people come to know the power of the resurrection of Jesus Christ and to know his presence, not just as a theoretical idea, but in their experience of life.

Another reason for believing is reason itself. We should not be tricked into thinking faith is the opposite of reason. In the New Testament faith is the opposite of fear, not doubt. Also, what people consider reasonable has varied a lot over the centuries anyway. It is reasonable to believe that the universe has a purpose and that it is not just a matter of chance. It is reasonable to conclude that our sense of right and wrong and the very idea of being in God’s world point us to something greater than ourselves.

When it comes to some of the teaching of our Christian faith, such as the Sermon on the Mount, can anyone improve on it? What a revolution there would be if the whole world followed what was taught there! It would change the world and sort out all our current conflicts. It is a pretty good reason for trying to follow Jesus Christ.

We can and we should ask questions and probe the issues. It is a good thing to do because it equips us better to stand up for our faith when we hear it derided or criticised. It is good also because it strengthens our beliefs. We need to be confident in our faith. It could be that the tide is turning and more and more people are beginning to look for a deeper meaning to their lives. The Church needs to be ready with the reasons and evidence for believing in Jesus Christ… and that is the job of all us who have been baptised into Christ.

Let us then with boldness proclaim with joy the faith of the Church: Alleluia! Christ is risen. He is risen indeed. Alleluia!

Alleluia! Christ is risen.

He is risen indeed. Alleluia!

Every blessing

Letter from the Vicar – April 2022

Dear Friends,

One of my favourite Bible stories is The Walk to Emmaus (St Luke 24: 13ff). In this passage two of Jesus’ disciples are walking to Emmaus from Jerusalem. Suddenly they are joined by Jesus, but thinking he is dead, they do not recognise him. They talk about the events of the past few days in Jerusalem: of Jesus’ death on the cross and of his alleged rising to life again. The stranger listens and walks with them, helping them to understand the prophesies concerning Jesus’ death. As evening falls, they share a meal, and as the stranger blesses and breaks the bread, so the disciplesrecognise him to be the risen Christ, and immediately – filled with the joy of the resurrection – they go into the world to proclaim this Good News.

Lent, in many ways, could be regarded as our journey to Emmaus; a time of walking with Jesus, seeking to know him more fully and living in his love more deeply. During Lent we have been encouraged to ask questions about our faith, just like those first disciples obviously did as they walked. We have been encouraged to spend time listening to Jesus – in prayer and through reading the Scriptures, discerning his call for each of us, and being both comforted and challenged by the transforming message he brings. And we have been encouraged to discover afresh the joy of the Gospel and how we can share this message of salvation with those around us.

After the journey, after Lent, comes the clearest revelation of Jesus. He breaks the bread at his friends’ table and is instantly recognised by them as their risen Lord. Every time we gather to celebrate the Eucharist we too bless and break the bread, and the risen and glorious Christ comes among us in that bread and wine to feed us for our journey of faith in him. But more than that, we commemorate and celebrate the Easter Mystery: Christ has died, Christ is risen, Christ will come again. The Eucharist – the meal of God’s Kingdom – is a celebration of Christ’s victory over sin and death. In thanksgiving we rejoice that Jesus broke the chains of death and opened the gates of heaven.

This is our Easter joy! I pray that this joy may be yours this Easter as we celebrate afresh the Resurrection of Christ. For Alleluia! Christ is risen. He is risen indeed. Alleluia!

Every blessing

Letter from the Vicar – March 2022

Dear Friends,

I attended recently a Conference for Rural Deans at which our Diocesan Bishop gave the opening Bible Study. He focused on Hebrews 11 and 12 and the encouragement offered to live by faith. At the heart of his exegesis was the commendation to lay aside every every weight and the sin that clings so closely, running the race before us with perseverance, looking to Jesus the pioneer and perfecter of our faith and the question “What does this look like to us as we emerge ‘hopefully’ out from this pandemic?”

Our thoughts instantly turned to what prevents us (namely those things that cling so closely) from moving forward as Deaneries and Parishes. We presented many obstacles: lack of confidence in returning to church; financial instability and deficit budgets; drained motivation; volunteer shortages; new habits; Church structures. To which Bishop Alan encouraged us to look afresh at the long list of biblical figures mentioned in the passage and observe how they overcame great adversity when – and only when – they were routed in the life of God. These great figures of former generations (David, Samson, Moses) are part of the great cloud of witnesses that surround and encourage us in our common task, who point us to Jesus the way, the truth, and the life – the one who gives and fills life with his fullness and abundance.

At the end of his Bible Study Bishop Alan added: ‘The Church is not always good news, BUT God is! As we trust in him, let us therefore lay aside (or work to overcome) these obstacles, and become good news to our Churches and communities; confident that all things are possible for God.’

The pandemic is not over but we are in a different place to where we were a year ago. Society is once again opening up as legal restrictions are withdrawn. And although we have been ‘back’ as a church for some time, the time has now come for us to start looking to the future with renewed hope and optimism. It’s time for us to recover the lost – both those whom we have not been able to remain in contact with during the pandemic and the joy that has been sucked out of daily and corporate living.

As we journey through Lent this month, we are traditionally not very joyful so that our celebrations of the resurrection maybe even more joyful in comparison. This year, I would like to encourage us to return to a place of joy in Christ. Perhaps you might like to join our Lent Course The Joy of the Gospel as a way of reconnecting with the pioneer and perfecter of our faith? If you have not returned to church yet, perhaps this Lent and Easter is the time to return?

As always, I send you my prayers and best wishes as we emerge from this pandemic

Letter from the Vicar – February 2022

Dear Friends,

On 6 February, Accession Day, Her Majesty The Queen will have been our Monarch for an unprecedented 70 years. Her life of duty and devotion to her people have been unparalleled and, despite enduring a turbulent reign both within the life of the Nation, Commonwealth, and even Her Majesty’s own family, The Queen has remained a constant in our lives giving stability and reassurance. For the vast majority of people alive today The Queen is the only Head of State for this country we have known. But I dare say some of you will remember life during her father’s reign as King.

The Queen’s accession to the throne is always a bitter-sweet day for Her Majesty. Although it is a reminder of her elevation to Monarch it also marks the day when her father, King George VI, died. Every year since, The Queen has been publically reminded of her parting from someone incredibly dear to her. Her Majesty’s tradition is to spend the day in private (usually at Sandringham), away from the glare and interest of the Media, and reflect both upon her memories of her father but also on her time as Queen. It must be very surreal to be publically reminded of an event that has brought both joy and sadness.

Like Her Majesty we too face anniversaries which provoke memories and emotions – usually contained – to bubble to the surface. In the first year of bereavement we face a calendar of firsts – birthdays, festivals, wedding anniversary, etc – without our loved one. Then we are hit with the first anniversary of death/funeral and are confronted with memories of living on. In the lives of our children we reminded of the joys and heartaches of being parents as they joyfully celebrate the passing of the years. Other traumas or joys are also etched into our hearts and are remembered.

Our remembering can become overwhelming and all-encompassing and prevent us from living life. But it can also be a life-giving. Reflecting upon joys shared, memories made, love reciprocated, trust enjoyed, laughter raised, reminds us that we belong, that we live in community and not isolation, that we are loved and special even if we don’t always feel it. In remembering we “re-member” and make present once again – just like we do at every celebration of the Eucharist when we recall Christ’s Last Supper, his gift of himself on the cross, and his mighty resurrection. Christ once again becomes present. Our loved ones become present. Past joys and sorrows stir in our hearts. The pervading temptation at present is to ignore all this and forget about the past – thinking that it cannot help us move forward. But it does. I’m sure The Queen is a stronger monarch and person for remembering her father. We are stronger for remembering our loved ones and the times we have spent with them. We are stronger when we celebrate past joys. And we are certainly stronger when we remember the depth of God’s love as expressed through the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus.

Later this year (and next) we will have the opportunity to celebrate Her Majesty’s reign. Plans are being put in place for how we might do this as a community and I hope you will be able to join us for these events. But for now, it’s ok to remember.

Best Wishes,

Letter from the Vicar – December 2021

Dear Friends,

Longing for light, we wait in darkness. Longing for truth, we turn to you [God].

These are the opening words of a poem by Bernadette Farrell which has been set to music and will be sung over the Christmas period in this parish. At this time of year most of us crave some sunshine. We have been fortunate to enjoy a mild and sunny autumn, but as the cold and darkness press on I wonder how many have booked, or are in the process of booking, a holiday for next summer’s sun? I wonder how many are counting down the days until the shortest day, 21 December, and will then rejoice as the days start to brighten and lengthen – albeit oh so slowly to begin with.

But it’s not just sunshine that we crave. It’s truth too. We hate being lied to. And yet all too often in our political discourse that is what confronts us. Lies, half-truths, and evasion. The future of our country is in the balance and no-one knows what is going on. In hope and longing for truth, even those who don’t normally pray, have turned to the Lord.

And perhaps there is no better time for us to be turning to God. Our annual celebration of the birth of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ reminds us that God, in Christ, chose to come and life among us, to share our darkness, our pain, and our despondency. But the life he shared was so that he could bring light, bring hope, bring truth, and to bring healing. The joy of the incarnation is that every single person on this planet is known and loved of God and he wants to be in relationship with them through Jesus who is ‘the way, the truth, and the life’ and ‘the light of the world’. What could be more joyous for us to celebrate?

In these dark days, let us rejoice in the light coming into the world – Jesus, the Prince of Peace. Let us rejoice that he came to shed his glorious light and truth upon the world so that injustice might be routed out, fears banished, pains healed, and peace lived and enjoyed.

I wish you all a very happy and holy Christmas and every Blessing for the New Year..

In Christ,

Letter from the Vicar – November 2021

Dear Friends,

We do a lot of Remembering in the month of November. As the days shorten and darkness seems to be a greater feature than sunshine over our British world, we think back and remember. We remember Guy Fawkes and his attempt to destroy Parliament, in the fun of bonfires and fireworks! We also remember those who have died and were close to us as family or in friendship at our Annual Memorial and All Souls’ services. We remember those who have fallen (and are still falling) in war zones, with a renewed determination to bring an end to death, maiming, and mental health problems that come from war, with a special Act of Remembrance in Church. But added to these remembrances, we also remember those we continue to love and care for as we prepare for Christmas – who will we send a card to? or prepare a present for? so we remember the living as well, the physically close and those living away from us, maybe not seen for a long time.

We treasure our memories of people – both the living and those who are no longer with us physically. November is definitely a time for Remembrance in more ways than one! For the past and for the future, we determine not to take our family and friends for granted, but to treasure them. To remember them.

As we also ‘gear up’ in Church to begin the season of Advent let us also remember Jesus in the same way, by not taking Him for granted or all that He did for us. Take a moment in this month of darkness to remember that in December we will sing of Jesus being the light that came into the world to bring us love, forgiveness, and direct access to God the Father through the work of the Holy Spirit. Let’s not take all that or Him for granted, and include Jesus in our remembrance this month, with gratitude, realising that in Him, we have something to treasure too.

In Christ

A prayer for Remembrance: Dear Lord Jesus, thank you for all those who we have loved and see no longer and for the part they played in our lives. Thank you for all those we love and care for and who are still a part of our lives. Thank you for your love and care for us. Please help us in the busyness of our lives, but also in the dusk of wintertime, to remember with love and gratitude, both them and you. Please bless us in our endeavours to treasure. Amen.

Letter from the Lay Reader – October 2021

Dear Friends,

As I sit down to write this letter, two words are uppermost in my mind: “THANK YOU”.

Thinking back over the past thirty years since this parish encouraged me to study and be licensed as a lay reader has left me with a deep sense of gratitude. In a few days time I’ll be returning to Grimsby to visit, among other relatives and friends, Auntie Winnie, my favourite Aunt. She’s in her nineties now and very frail but I know she will be so pleased to see me. We will reminisce and I will definitely be thanking her especially for how much she contributed to the development of my faith as I grew. I have my train tickets ready and my masks and I’m very excited. This will be the first visit since the pandemic bore down on us, restricted our movements and filled us with fear. How thankful we must be to the scientists and medics who have worked so tirelessly to help to free us to move around once again, but how careful and considerate of others we still need to be..

I’m acutely aware that countless others have helped me on my life journey too, including many in this parish and many of them may never know how much I have to thank them for.

The Saturday live programme on radio four always has a spot where listeners write in with stories of strangers who have helped them and whom they didn’t manage to thank adequately at the time. Some of these stories are very moving and the contributors always hope that the ones they want to thank might be listening.

There’s an old hymn with the lines: “Count your blessings count them one by one and you will remember what the Lord has done”. It might sound a bit old fashioned to some, but it still makes profound sense. Ever tried making a list? It’s a great exercise to do, especially when your world seems dark. It can be very humbling and uplifting at the same time.

We shall soon be holding our Harvest Thanksgiving Service and how marvellous it will be this year to be able to sing our thanks once again at our All-Age Eucharist on Oct 3rd

Of course, there will always be ups and downs but I’m so thankful for the joy and the privilege of still being your friend and Lay Reader,

Carol

Letter from the Vicar – September 2021

Dear Friends,

Despite the weather this summer being rather ordinary we have been treated (if you like sports) to some rather extraordinary sporting competitions. Naturally this all kicked-off with our Parish Cricket Match – the Parish of Boxmoor leading the way!!! I jest of course. But what a summer of sport: The Euros, Wimbledon, Cricket in all forms of the game including the new Hundred, and who can forget the Olympics?! Crowds and fans were once again permitted to attend depending on where and when these events took place. As someone who enjoys sport it has been engrossing to see the talent and quality of sport on offer and to hear how our sportsmen and women overcame all the challenges and difficulties of the last 18 months. Their stories are both inspirational and incredible.

Triumph over adversity, in some ways, is the story of this summer and during the pandemic. We have all had to work within limitations but some have still found ways to push themselves to excel. Some have gone above and beyond their duty to help the sick, the isolated or vulnerable. Some have found new ways to connect with people – teaching themselves new technologies and habits. And of course some are still digging-deep to help those who bear the scars of Covid.

To triumph over adversity requires determination and focus. One must be committed to one’s vision or purpose. Throughout history there are myriads of men and women who have done just this to inspire us – not just in sport but in all aspects of life including the Church. Within the Christian faith many of these have been formally recognised as saints – people who have lived faithfully to their calling as disciples of Christ no matter what was going on around them. Their stories are remarkable and it is a joy to remember them and be inspired by them on their ‘feast day’.

St Paul in many of his letters often makes the comparison of being a disciple of Jesus to that of an athlete. Although physically we may not being able to compete in the same way, we can certainly imitate athletes in their focus and determination – but with the prize being Jesus. To be a follower of Jesus is to decide, daily, that he is the one who can give us life in all its fullness and instruct us in the values of the Kingdom. This requires determination and dedication. It requires focus and belief. As we emerge into life post-lockdown it is time to reconnect to this vision. Although our faith may have sustained us during the pandemic we have not been able to witness in our usual and familiar ways. Now is the time for us to return to it. To recommit to coming to church for teaching, fellowship, and receiving of the Sacraments; to bearing the light of Christ in our communities and inviting friends and acquaintances to the joy we share in our new life in Christ.

Now is a good time to this. September – a month of new beginnings as the academic year begins and clubs and societies return from the summer break – is full of potential. How will we reach our potential in Christ?

As ever, my prayers and blessings to you all.

Letter from the Vicar – August 2021

Dear Friends,

During the final few weeks of the academic year it was a true delight to be able to welcome school children to church once again, showing them around and explaining our symbols, rituals, and customs. One question I am asked by every class is what is meaning each of the different colours has on our vestments. This made me wonder how many of you, our regular congregation, would be able to answer this question? Have you even noticed that on particular Sundays and during the various seasons the colour changes? I’m sure you have. Or do you just think I go to the vestry and think ‘I’ll wear this one today?’.

The principle colours are Green, White, Red, and Purple – although there are others which I’ll come to in a moment – but what do they represent?

Green is the colour for Ordinary Time; the season we are in now, stretching from the day after Trinity Sunday to the day before All Saints’ Day (31 Oct) – excluding any specific Feast Days. It is the colour of new growth and reminds us that during this period of Ordinary Time we are to be nurtured in the faith; we are to grow and develop in our understanding and discipleship so that, when we get to one of the Principal Feasts we may celebrate more fully. Usually during this time our Bible readings during the Eucharist have been chosen to enable us to walk alongside the disciples as they walk with and learn from Christ; we are presented with countless miracles to show us the depth of God’s love and grace in Jesus Christ; and to reaffirm our belief that Jesus is the Son of God.

Red is the colour of blood and fire. Our red vestments are therefore worn on days when we remember and celebrate our Christian martyrs – the lives of those who died for their faith. Among them are St Stephen – a deacon in the early Church and the first person to be martyred, St George, and St Alban. But they are also worn on days when we think of the Holy Spirit – often depicted as tongues of fire. Red is therefore worn on the Feast of Pentecost and on days when we recall Jesus’ first disciples – the Apostles – who were sent out to proclaim the Good News of Christ upon receiving the gift of his Spirit at Pentecost.

Purple, which was once considered a ‘royal’ colour due to its expensive properties, is now more commonly associated with penitence and grieving and therefore worn during Advent and Lent. During these seasons we prepare by prayer and fasting for momentous events in the life of Christ: Advent to prepare for his birth in Bethlehem – when God became incarnate, and Lent when we prepare for Jesus’ death on the cross and glorious resurrection on Easter Day. Purple is also often worn at funerals representing our sorrow for those whom we know and love yet see no-longer.

And our final principal colour is White. This is our joyful colour – often either trimmed with gold and sometimes exchanged for gold – and is therefore worn during times of celebration. It is therefore worn at Christmas when we recall Jesus’ birth – “God with us”, and during Easter – “Alleluia! Christ is risen!” It is often referred to as our ‘best’ set and therefore also used on other great days of celebration ranging from weddings and baptisms to other feasts of Jesus like Corpus Christi, Ascension Day, and Trinity Sunday. White is also worn throughout Kingdom Season in November when we recall the saints in glory, clothed in white apparel.

As already alluded there are some other colours which may be worn. Rose vestments for instance are worn on two particular Sundays called ‘refreshment days’ – Gaudate Sunday and Laudate Sunday (Advent 3 and Lent 4). These are days mid-way through these penitential seasons when we are permitted to break our fasts and relax a little. Blue vestments (or at least blue trimmed vestments) tend to be worn on days celebrating the Blessed Virgin Mary primarily because Mary is most commonly associated with wearing a blue dress. Black vestments (if a church has them) may be worn at funerals and memorials and, as you would expect, is associated with mourning. Gold, as already mentioned, may replace white as a churches best set and therefore worn on momentous celebrations. Churches that have gold vestments tend to wear these on the actual feast day – like Christmas, Epiphany, Easter, and then their second best white set during the remainder of the season.

So now you know why the different colours that are worn and displayed. Who knows, perhaps this knowledge might help you during this season of growth and understanding, as we are nurtured in our faith.

Every blessing

Letter from the Churchwardens – July 2021

Dear All,

Traditionally the job of the churchwarden has been to:

Look after the welfare of the Vicar.
Keep the peace in the church yard (apparently quite challenging in Tudor times)
Maintain the fabric of the church buildings

This has been added to this past year:

Be able to estimate instantly two metres for social distancing purposes.
Be nifty with rope tying and fixing.
Keep an eye on gel dispensers so that they are constantly topped up. (and I don’t think the pews have ever been so clean!)

I hope we support our Vicar by relieving him of some of his chores. The daily opening of the church, to be honest, has been a blessing. The numbers of people of all ages, different religions or none, who have come in to find peace, comfort and respite, has been enormous and their words of appreciation, very moving.

So, we come to the maintenance of the fabric of the church. There has been a very loyal group of people who have been keeping the church clean and another group working tirelessly in the grounds – but more is needed.

At the moment we are considering our “giving”: how we can support our Church? But giving does not have to be financial. You can give your time and your gifts. Sometimes it is not easy to see a gift in yourself “what, me?” But perhaps we can spot gifts in others. “You are really good at…..(could be anything: explaining things, music, admin, maintenance, painting, gardening, plumbing!)”. Are you a qualified electrician? These are your gifts.

By working together using individual gifts, we can grow as a church community, strengthening ourselves and others.

We would love to hear from you,

Job Rombout and Marian Davies
Churchwardens

The Vicar’s Letter – June 2021

Dear Friends,

As we begin the month of June – of Wimbledon, strawberries, school sports days, and the summer solstice – we are hopefully entering into the final phase of the Government’s Roadmap out of lockdown. Come 21 June we will know if all the remaining restrictions have been lifted and if the risk of Covid-19 to public health has reduced/been mitigated. We will be entering into a normality we have not seen for a long time. Like you I suspect, I am very much looking forward to things ‘getting back to normal’ so long as the risk is low, and being and living as ‘normal’ won’t plunge us into another lockdown. We all need a break from these exceptional times.

As a Church we too are returning to ‘normal’ this month in so far as we are returning to Ordinary Time. This is the longest “season” in the Church’s year and, excluding specific one-off Saint’s days or feasts, lasts from the week after Trinity Sunday through till the beginning of November when Kingdom Season is ushered in with the feast of All Saints’. After the busy-ness of the liturgical calendar over the last 6 months (Advent, Christmas, Lent, Easter) these coming days of Ordinary Time are something of a welcome relief. It will lovely to simply ‘be’ in Church and not be obliged to celebrate anything in particular or to contemplate one’s penitence but rather just dwell with God – walking with him, learning with him, loving with him.

The seasons give us excitement and drama. But you can sometimes have too much excitement and drama. This last year of “special measures” has once again reminded me that we cannot thrive and grow and flourish if we are “always exceptional” – positive or negative – we need some time to be “normal”. If we are always on cloud nine or in the depths of despair we will become exhausted. The emotional load we carry or exert in these highs and lows is often more than we care to admit. And it is when these highs and lows overwhelm us that we realise just how much we miss/crave/long for normality. There is nothing wrong with “normal”. If anything I find great comfort in normal.

During these coming days of Ordinary Time I am really hoping that we are truly able to return to normal. I’m longing for our congregations to be able to sing in prayer and praise. I’m longing to be able to shake you by the hand on arrival or exit or at the peace – a simple sign of friendship and respect. I’m longing to be able to share fellowship with you in person after our services and not on Zoom. I’m longing to be able to see your faces unveiled and for our Junior Church to return. And God willing these will be able to return from 21 June. I hope, for us all, these will be a welcome relief when they return.

Every blessing

The Vicar’s Letter – May 2021

Dear Friends,

What do you think is the most common instruction in the Bible? ‘Love God’? ‘Love your neighbour’? ‘Repent’? These would all be good guesses but actually it is ‘Do not be afraid’. This instruction has featured heavily in our Bible readings this Easter and by my count do not be afraid (or something very similar) appears 365 times in the Bible – one for every day of the year. And of these, 21 times is by Jesus. But why? Why is this so important?

As many will know, when gripped by fear it is virtually impossible to do anything other than panic or worry. Fear debilitates – preventing us, or even paralysing us, from doing many normal things or thinking rationally. Fear prompts us to act selfishly, often as a means of self-preservation. Fear often only breeds more fear. Some biblical examples of this would be:

Jonah – when faced with the scary task of telling the people of Nineveh to repent or face the coming judgement he chose to run away through fear.

King Herod – when he learned of the birth of Jesus, a rival King, was filled with fear that his kingdom would be taken from him and so slaughter thousands of children to try to eradicate the problem.

Peter – at Jesus’ trial, whilst sitting in the courtyard, was asked 3 times if he knew Jesus but denied him 3 times for fear he too would arrested and face the same fate as Jesus.

All the Disciples – after Jesus’ death they locked themselves away in the upper room for fear they too could be arrested and killed.

Fear can be terribly destructive and life inhibiting. Terrorists seek to get their own way by causing as much fear as possible, weakening resolve. Newspapers and other news outlets prey on peoples’ fears as a means to increase sales and circulation. Politicians are often accused of scaremongering when trying to push controversial policies through Parliament. And over the last year we have, rightly, been gripped with fear regarding the spread of Coronavirus and how we can protect one another and ourselves. Although this fear has been well-founded it has nonetheless been life inhibiting. And there are more intimate instances when fear is holding us back from speaking the truth to someone or putting ourselves forward for a job or situation.

This month we will celebrate afresh the Feast of Pentecost, when God bequeathed on his Church the gift of his Holy Spirit. This Holy Spirit can and does find ways to calm our fears and give us strength. When the disciples where cowering in the upper room and the risen Christ came and stood before them he not only calmed them with his words but strengthened and sustained them through the gift of his Spirit. They only left the upper room and started talking about the risen Christ through the Spirit’s strength. And it is because of the Spirit that we have heard this Good News for ourselves and have come to believe.

As members of God’s Church, we are invited to trust and rely on God’s Spirit to bring peace and calm when we are fearful. But let us also share that peace and calm with those around us as we engage in matters of national/international/personal importance.

May the Peace of the risen Christ be with you always.

Every blessing

Letter from the Lay Reader – April 2021

Dear Friends,

It’s a bit of a shock to realise that I’m writing this letter a whole year since our first lockdown began. It’s been a year like no other, one we would most definitely NOT want to repeat, ever again. You’ll be only too well aware of the bad, sad and mad things that have happened in the past twelve months.

There is some light at the end of this dark tunnel though, if we all take our vaccinations, continue to act responsibly and the numbers infected continue to fall. Even as I write, plans are being made for resuming congregational worship in just two weeks time, albeit still with masks, social distancing, sanitising and recorded music. I can hardly wait! By the time you get to read this we’ll already be immersed in all the richness of Holy Week and rapidly approaching Easter Day.

But although it’s been a horrendous year in many ways, there have been some good things too and in particular much to be learned. For me, recording services has been a case in point. Keith has been simply amazing as all those of you who make use of our online services will have discovered. I was afraid at first that it might all feel like a performance rather than real worship, but once Mike and I have prayed and worship begins, it always feels absolutely real. If it’s my turn to preach, by the grace of God I can almost see many of you in my mind’s eye in the pews in front of me. Joining in worship with Godfrey at home on Sunday mornings also feels real as we say the prayers and sometimes sing, sometimes listen, to the music. A great blessing indeed.

Of course, we shouldn’t let armchair worship become an easy alternative when we’re back together again. Every member present strengthens the body and everyone missing weakens it, but for those for whom it’s truly impossible to come in person, there’s now a lifeline. You can also use it to reach out to friends and neighbours who might be hesitant to cross the church threshold and who knows who might simply pick it up via our excellent website.

Our buddying network has been another important outcome of the pandemic and you’ll have read all about that in the March magazine. There’s still plenty to consider and learn in all kinds of ways.

It would be very interesting to hear from some of you about any good things and learning opportunities that you personally have found in lockdown. How about letting our lovely editor, Sally Anne Bates, have your thoughts and ideas for the forthcoming magazines (deadline the first Sunday in each month). It would be really good to share them.

Love and Blessings

Your Lay Reader, Carole

The Vicar’s Letter – March 2021

This month heralds the one year anniversary of the Government’s order to “stay at home: protect the NHS: save lives”. On the one hand it doesn’t feel like a year has passed, and yet on the other it certainly does. So much has changed. So many people have been infected and affected. Our statistics are brutal and sobering, and behind each number is a name, a person, and a grieving family.

In the early days of the pandemic I recall hearing the daily death toll – rising – and being both concerned and anxious. I recall when our mortality rate exceeded Italy and Spain, when we topped 1000 people dying in a single day, and when we reached the grim landmark of over 100,000 people dying as a result of Covid-19. It has been a dark and painful year. Perhaps I am alone in this, but I fear I have become numb to daily death toll as it is announced each day. I hope, however, this is not the case.

One thing Covid-19 has done to our society is open up a conversation about death and dying. It has been something we cannot ignore no matter how much we might like to. Across the generations we have started to think about our mortality rather than treating the subject as taboo and brushing it under the carpet. That’s not to say we have come to terms with dying but rather that we are more prepared to address the often ever-present elephant in the room!

The Christian faith, however, never shies away from dying. How can it? when at the heart of our faith is the death of the Son of God upon the Cross and his mightily and glorious resurrection, and the promise that he is the resurrection and the life. Jesus never shied away from death – in fact he actively ‘set his face towards Jerusalem’ knowing all that was to befall him and his own death. Or recall the times he raised Lazarus, the widow’s son at Nain, or Jairus’ daughter from the dead. The Letters to the early Church are riddled with references to both Christ’s death and our own dying – actual and metaphorical dying. Our liturgies are punctuated by references to Christ’s death and even our symbol of faith – the Cross – brings to the fore the subject of mortality.

But although death is at the heart of our faith it is not the final word. Death and dying are the vehicles by which new life is possible: new experiences, new perspectives, new relationships. Death is not the end – as we often think – but rather a moment of transformation or a gateway into a new reality with God. Only by dying can we be resurrected with Christ and take our places more fully in his eternal Kingdom. This is the Good News of our faith: that “neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor rulers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8: 38f

Death is not the final word – Life is the final word… life in all its fullness. As we approach this Easter and prepare to celebrate afresh Christ’s victory over sin and death may we be encouraged and strengthened to witness to this Good News within our wider community. As we start to be able to have face-to-face conversations again may we be ready to offer the Christian hope of the resurrected life in Christ Jesus to all those who have been forced to examine their mortality. May we gently, but unashamedly, offer Christ and his victory over the grave.

As ever, stay well and safe.

Every Blessing,

The Vicar’s Letter – February 2021

Dear Friends,

As I write, a thick layer of snow abounds outside glistening in the glorious sunshine with which I am currently bathed whilst sitting at my desk in my study. When the snow was falling yesterday the skies were leaden and heavy but now they seem to go on for eternity with nothing – not even a cloud – interrupting the expanse of blue. Of course this will change but for now it all looks rather lovely. I’m reminded of verses from Isaiah which I have been saying daily at Morning Prayer throughout Epiphany Season:

“Arise, shine; for your light has come, and the glory of the Lord has risen upon you. For darkness shall cover the earth, and thick darkness the peoples; but the Lord will arise upon you, and his glory will appear over you.” Isaiah 60: 1-3

Though there is darkness, it will not last for ever, for light will dispel the gloom with a radiance we have not seen. January is traditionally a gloomy month for many of us but it has, perhaps, felt more so this year. Usually we only have to contend with the emotional low often experienced after a good, jolly, Christmas and the dark, cold, days and nights of winter. But this year we have had to contend with Lockdown 3.0 after infection rates rose exponentially, a lot of wet and cold weather, home schooling (for some), and a Christmas that was perhaps less jolly than normal due to the various restrictions. An unpleasant recipe of ingredients!

Despite the gloom during yesterday’s flurry, the fun experienced by many families enjoying the snow on the Moor and elsewhere was more than evident. For families it was a welcome tonic to learning about fronted adverbials and the different (new) methods of arithmetic! For others looking on from their windows it was a chance to share in their fun without getting cold and wet. And for others, a good book or film, a blanket, and a mug of hot chocolate was all that was required as the world was hushed. Yesterday’s snow day brought some relief but it will be short-lived as attention moves to the perils of getting around on the ice.

Those verses I quoted above from Isaiah (and the remainder of that chapter) remind us, however, that the relief we will experience when the new dawn breaks will not be short-lived but will be incomparable in radiance and glory. As Christians, we believe the new dawn to be the glorious Gospel of Jesus Christ. We trust in the promise of resurrection – life after death, light out of darkness, hope out of despair. We know that joy comes in the morning for it was on the third morn that Jesus rose from the dead so that we might all have life – life in all its fullness.

Later this month we will begin the season of Lent: 40 days of preparation to celebrate afresh God’s glorious power of life over death, light over darkness, hope over despair, forgiveness over transgressions. 2020 might have felt like one long Lent during these days of pandemic, but just as a brighter day will dawn with the resurrection of Jesus so it is dawning upon us now with the fantastic job our NHS is doing in rolling-out the vaccines. A brighter dawn will break and together, with the risen Christ, we will arise for the glory of the Lord has risen upon us.

But first we must endure the darkest and coldest time of all – just before dawn. As we enter Lent, I usually encourage you to adopt some form of self-discipline so as to grow in faith. This year, be kind to yourselves and do not make the burden too great that it becomes an overwhelming obligation. We have enough of a burden already! Try to make your discipline a joy, life-giving, and affirming. And keep your eyes on the horizon looking for the dawn.

As ever, stay well and safe.

Every Blessing,

The Vicar’s Letter – November 2020

November is the month of remembrance – the month for remembering. It opens with All Saints’ Day (1st) on which we’re reminded that we are one with all those faithful followers of Christ who have gone before us. As the Collect, the special prayer, for All Saints’ Day puts it – we are “knit together…..in one communion and fellowship in the mystical body of [God’s] Son Christ our Lord…..” Then on the Sunday nearest to the 11th, Remembrance Sunday, we come together as a nation to remember with gratitude all those who have fallen in the course of human conflict through the centuries, and sadly still in our own day, to bring about and preserve our freedoms.

And on the 2nd, All Souls’ Day – otherwise known as the ‘Commemoration of the Faithful Departed’ – we remember before God with thankfulness all those whom we love but see no longer. The remembering is not without its pain, but that pain is perhaps in some way eased by a sense of thanksgiving.

None of us find it easy to say goodbye. And death is the ultimate goodbye – it’s so very final. Yet it is a reality; it is a part of life with which we live and which we will all face. The death of a loved one is probably one of the hardest things we ever have to face. However much we might have been prepared for it, it is still an immense loss.

Whether we are remembering loved ones who have recently died, or those who died many years ago, those who died tragically or peacefully, we are faced with all sorts of emotions: a sense of grief, of despair, of emptiness, of hopelessness, a lack of peace, and maybe even regrets about what could have been. We find similar emotions expressed in the Bible, for instance in the book of Lamentations. There we find a situation in which Jerusalem, in the 6th century BC, and the Jewish people – God’s chosen people – have been taken into exile in Babylon. Being taken away from their beloved homeland was a huge loss for them, and the writer here expresses his anguish as he witnesses the desolation of the great city of Jerusalem – “my soul is bereft of peace; I have forgotten what happiness is; so I say, ‘Gone is my glory, and all that I had hoped for from the Lord.’” The sense of despair is plain.

Yet in the midst of all this, there is a real glimmer of hope as the writer recalls, “The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases, his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” Through all the ‘ups and downs’ of life, God is loving, merciful, and faithful. In our grief, we might naturally feel that the Lord is far from us, but the truth is that he is indeed very present with us. Even though we might walk through the valley of the shadow of death, God is with us – he cares for us and he comforts us.

And we’re reminded, too, that there is hope. There is indeed good news which is based not on wishful thinking, but rather is founded upon historical reality. For the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead gives us a sure and living hope that death is not the end – that death does not have the final word. Christ has gone through the door marked ‘death’ and has come forth from the grave, triumphing over it. Although all that we see around us might be subject to decay and ultimately perish, the resurrection of Jesus holds out for us the real promise of eternal life for all who put their trust in him – the promise of a heavenly home where all is imperishable. Without that hope, death continues to be our enemy, to hold us hostage. But the power of hope is stronger than the fear of death.

So we are to face death with the eyes of faith – faith in God who is greater than death, faith in Jesus who has conquered death and who gives eternal life to all who put their trust in him. For we have this deep assurance that those who have died in Christ will rise again. Death is not the end. It might be the end of this life as we know it. But it is also the beginning – the beginning of the perfect life with God beyond the grave.

Whoever you are remembering this month, may the God of comfort and consolation be with you. May your memories be filled with love and happiness. And may your trust be in God who brings life out of death and welcomes us to share in the glory of his eternal Kingdom.

As ever, my prayers and blessings to you all.

Letter from the Associate Minister – October 2020

You may have read in last month’s magazine a piece I wrote about a book “Mandala: Way-Wandering”, that had been sent to me by an old friend. He had written it as a reflective account of his life, people he had met along life’s way, conversations, and his own exploration of faith and meaning. I wrote it intending it to be the magazine letter, but I had mis-read the rota and it was not my turn. But now it is my turn, so I am thinking again what I can say for this month’s magazine and this book is still very much in my mind. In part, this is because now also it has been announced that I will be leaving Boxmoor at the beginning of November and my journey in life and ministry will be taking yet another turn. It causes me to reflect on how often paths in life cross, sometimes through choices we make, sometimes without us realising, and we meet people, experience events that help shape who we are, prompt us into new ways of thinking and being.

I first came to Boxmoor when I was ordained in 2009. By then I had already spent 5 years in a different form of church ministry. After a year training in Cambridge I came to Boxmoor and spent a happy three and a half years in ministry here as a curate. Between leaving in January 2012 and returning to Boxmoor in 2018, I served as a priest in two parishes in St Albans, a parish in Welwyn Garden City as well as some short and two longer periods of time in the Diocese of Kagera in Tanzania where I had the privilege of both teaching in a theological college and preaching in many parishes that could not be more different to this. It has been a rich tapestry of experience and learning. But it does not end here as I prepare to leave and go on in a different form of ministry again.

At the end of that piece on “Way-Wandering”, last month I spoke of how the book reminded me to be grateful for the many people who have been important to me in my own journeys in life and ministry – many of whom of course are here in Boxmoor. In some ways it feels far too soon to move on, but I believe God has made it clear it is the right time for this next step, and I will not be going without gratitude for this time back here in Boxmoor.

So thank you to all of you here for all that you are, all that you have shared and all that I have learned in these last two years and those who also were part of my journey when our paths crossed before. I will miss the people of Boxmoor but will not be far away and maybe in some way again in the future can look forward to our paths crossing again.

God bless, and thank you

Vicar’s Letter – September 2020

Dear Friends,

The end of August and the beginning of September usually herald a frenzy of activity as clubs and societies, schools and universities, friends and work colleagues return from their summer break. Children are preparing to start a new school year and possibly even a new school or go up to university; parents are busy making sure school and club uniforms fit, shoes bought, and everything labelled (thank God for sticky labels is all I can say!); teachers and club leaders have mapped-out the curriculum and activities for the term ahead; and work colleagues are once again back into the daily routine. It’s so nice to be able to talk about something so usual and normal actually taking place in 2020! Of course, by the time September comes round circumstances might have changed. But for the time being it is quite comforting (even energising) to be able plan for something that symbolises a new start.

I suspect I am not alone in wanting this year to be over. So many hopes and dreams have been dashed; so much pain and distress has been experienced by so many; so much isolation and loneliness. It’s not been fun. And although there are still 3 months until the end of the year (which will no doubt pass sooner than we think) the new beginning September ushers in is a moment for us to draw a line in the sand and start again. As a Parish things will be starting-up again, albeit taking into consideration the various regulations and restrictions: St Francis’ and St Stephen’s will once again have regular Sunday morning services (please see the Diary pages and The Vicar writes pages for details); Baptisms will take place again; our work with schools and children will resume – starting with a Children’s Praise Service and Picnic on Sunday 6 September; our Halls will be available for clubs and societies to meet in; Evening services will resume; and our choir will be permitted to sing on our behalf although it looks highly unlikely that we, the congregation, will be able to resume hymn singing for some time to come. Things are starting again.

Recently I have conducted quite a few one-on-one Baptism preparations sessions with families. During these I have been reminded that in the Baptism service I ask if the candidate/parents/godparents will repent of their sins. The word repent is usually understood to mean sorry – a helpful interpretation – but it also means to turn around, to start again. We are invited at baptism to stop walking in the ways of sin, to turn around and start walking in the opposite direction in the ways of Christ. And at the moment of Baptism we are quite literally born again into this new life in Christ by buried in the waters of Christ’s death and resurrection and rising to new life with him.

As Christians our Baptism shapes our existence. It not only provides our starting point but also shapes the journey we are to take through life – a life of discovering God’s nature and character and the unique relationship we share; a life framed by the values of his Kingdom of love, justice, mercy, kindness, and forgiveness to name just a few; a life where we can start over provided we repent (in both senses) and amend our ways.

As we start again as a society and a Church after lockdown perhaps this understanding of starting again, of repenting, will be helpful to us. Perhaps there are things we were doing pre-lockdown (and even during) of which we need to repent? Perhaps there were things we were doing that need to stop? Perhaps our compass needs re-setting to follow in the ways of Christ? Perhaps we need to return to the Church gathered and take our place once more among our friends in offering prayer and praise to God’s holy name? If this is the case, and you are anxious about coming out, please speak with a member of clergy who can advise on which services are most appropriate.

As ever, my prayers and blessings to you all.

Mike

Palm Sunday – 5 April 2020

My Brothers and Sisters in Christ,

This Sunday, Palm Sunday, marks the beginning of Holy Week; the most special week in the Christian calendar. On Sunday we recall Jesus’ triumphant entry into Jerusalem, riding into town on a donkey as a humble King; hailed by the crowds as their long awaited Messiah. By Friday the fickle crowd now shout out ‘crucify’ to the same man. During this Holy Week we journey with Christ and his first disciples as he prepares them for his impending arrest, trial, and execution. We, like those first disciples, receive some final instruction and teaching from the one who brings us into a new relationship with God the Father. Ordinarily we would share in the gift of the Holy Eucharist in thanksgiving and remembrance of Jesus’ Last Supper with his disciples – his gift of himself as the new covenant of life, light, and love where forgiveness and mercy are the new norms. Sadly we will not be able to share in this most wonderful Sacrament this year. We are given the greatest of all the commandments to love one another and are given the example of loving, sacrificial service, regardless of status or position. We walk with Jesus to his death on the Cross and share in the desolation of his first followers as they bury his body in a nearby tomb.

So much is crammed into these few short days. And yet I haven’t mentioned Jesus’ turning over of the money changers tables in the Temple, or his being anointed with costly oil and his feet bathed in tears. I haven’t mentioned his betrayal at the hands of Judas for 30 pieces of silver nor Peter’s threefold denial and the disciples’ abandonment of their Lord. I haven’t mentioned the jealousy and fear of the religious authorities leading to their cowardly and drastic act of arresting Jesus under the cover of darkness or the paranoia of the Roman leaders to do anything to prevent a riot.

So much is happening. And yet, for most of us this week, very little will happen. Bound by the physical and social distancing ‘new norms’ of society we will not be able to celebrate and commemorate these pivotal moments in Jesus’ life like we would normally. We are not able to process on Palm Sunday and receive our palm cross. We are not able to walk the Via Dolorosa by taking part in our annual Stations of the Cross at St Francis on Wednesday or along the Moor on Good Friday. We are not able to spend an hour together on Good Friday at the foot of the cross – upon which hung the Saviour of the world, or watch and wait with Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane.

But all is not lost. Yes, our traditional model of observance is not available this year but that does not stop us from observing in new ways. Our doors may be closed and we may be isolated from each other but our worship of almighty God can, and must, go on. You will see from the website that new resources have been, and will continue to be, made available to help us observe this most Holy Week. There is the Liturgy for Palm Sunday – enhanced by music to the hymns played on our own organ. There is a tutorial on how to make your own palm cross out of paper. There is a recording of Compline – perhaps you might like to use this each evening as you join with the prayers of the Church throughout the world for the sick, our health care workers, and each other. There are Stations of the Cross appropriate for adults and families respectively. There is a competition to design and make your own Easter Garden – you can be as creative as you like (see poster on website for details). You could read Matthew 26: 17-30 either alone or with your family and share bread and wine imagining that you were in that Upper Room with Jesus and his first disciples. You could spend some time on Good Friday gazing at a cross or crucifix and reflecting on what Christ’s atoning sacrifice means for you. Families could check out the resources offered by our Diocesan Children’s Mission Enabler for each of the principal days of Holy Week – again links to these can be found on our website. Texts to sermons and reflections will be available.

Of course, our offerings are not the only resources available. St Albans Abbey will be sharing their liturgies and reflections along with many other churches up and down the land. The Archbishops will most likely be inviting us to join with them in worship once again. There are many ways in which we can connect with God during this most Holy Week and give thanks for the ultimate gift of forgiveness as shown in the out stretched arms of Jesus on the Cross. I encourage you all to observe this Holy Week in whatever way is most appropriate and beneficial to you.

Our doors may be shut but the Church carries on. Over recent days the words to one of our well- known and loved hymns has echoed through my mind: The day thou gavest, Lord, is ended (words below). The Church is not about buildings, or continents, or empires but about people. People in relationship with God the Father through Jesus the Son and in the power of the Spirit; and people in relationship with each other. I have been truly touched by the way our congregation has been caring for each other and for those who do not worship with us. I have received many offers of help for folk who are isolating and in need of medication and shopping from people who are on the edge of joining our worshipping community. I have been encouraged by the commitment to pray for the life of the Parish and those who sick, lonely, dying, or caring for people. I have been humbled and privileged to preside at the Holy Eucharist from my study in the Vicarage where I have been able to bring to the Lord our cares and concern, our joys and thanksgivings, as Jesus becomes present in our midst in a very particular way through the most holy Sacrament of the Altar.

We may not be able to meet together, and it may feel like we are alone, but we are not. We are part of the Body of Christ and it is truly lovely to see the body being made manifest in new and existing ways in our community. Ruth and I continue to be faithful in saying our prayers for you and your loved ones. Please continue to pray for us and please let us know if you or anyone you know is in need of prayer and/or help.

As we draw ever closer to Easter I send you love and best wishes.
May the Lord bless and keep us all in the palm of his hand until we meet again.

In the love of Christ,

Mike

March 2020

Dear Friends,

As I sat down to write the letter for this month’s magazine, I had no idea what I was going to say. So I wrote the usual ‘Dear Friends,’ and then realised how infrequently I write letters to friends these days – or receive letters from them for that matter.

We have so many other ways of communicating and often these are more quickly done to share information or make a request.

Most days I receive at least one message from colleagues and friends in Tanzania – nearly always by WhatsApp. They are short but serve the purpose and my responses are usually similarly short and to the point.

Friends here are more likely to use text – again usually for information, requests or perhaps arranging a meeting.

And then there are those notes we receive perhaps once a year, summarising news, slotted into Christmas cards, or written on the card itself. Such a scribbled ‘we must meet up again soon’ in a card I sent resulted in meeting up with a friend last week.

We have known each other for maybe 30 years now, first as colleagues for a few years until our career paths took us in different directions. We have met up once or twice, but otherwise it has been mostly those annual Christmas card catch-ups. This year she had made a resolution to respond to such glib notes by doing something to make it happen. It was very good to spend time together and to catch up face to face – and because we have built a strong relationship, not all of it needed words – some came in wordless understanding.

On the train home I was reading a book in preparation for our Lent course on Prayer, and it dawned on me how much these experiences of keeping in contact with friends have in common with our experiences of prayer.

‘Prayer is relationship’ Stephen Cottrell says in his book ‘Praying through Life’, and it begins in meeting with (encounter), getting to know and through conversation with one who we know loves and accepts us for who we are.

Our prayers will take many different forms. Sometimes they will be short and to the point, they may include requests, they may use words or be in wordless understanding, or even discovered in spending time, sitting down with no idea what we are going to say.

There will be two opportunities to follow our Lent course – Monday evenings at St John’s and Thursday mornings at St Stephen’s, beginning in the first week of March. In five sessions we will look at prayer in its many forms and experiences – through exploring what, why, where, when and how. There is still time – why not join us?

With best wishes,

Ruth

February 2020

Dear Friends,

When we think about the Creation of the Universe, banged into being by that Cosmic gift of God, we think of a ginormous explosion of light. Flash-bang something from nothing, light from darkness: faith, hope and love springing from an act of the divine that we have to admit, we cannot conceive of let alone understand. Quarks, neutrinos and Higgs Bosun particles aside, we are blinded by it all. We can take it as a huge act of love – bringing into being absolutely everything. This very moment has its origins in that blast of love, and every fibre of our body is made from the possibility of potential life that burst forth in that minuscule, massive moment. The chances of us happening were infinitesimally small, and yet, here we are. From that loving bang of light comes the greatest hope ever. For hope is the assurance of things not seen, and while no-one but God could have predicted the incredibly small chance of life emerging from that big light, God knew and planned it. Creation was not random but deliberate, and we are here to tell the tale.

St Paul wrote to the Church in Corinth that there is a better way to live – a
better way of love. In what we think of as chapter 13 of his first letter to
them, he tells them what love is and why it is important. And he concludes
with very famous words, heard at weddings and funerals: that ‘these three
remain – faith, hope and love, and the greatest of these is love’. It is these
three that abide, endure. Faith, hope and love that we carry with us all our
lives. These three that were there from the beginning and which we live by,
and which we carry beyond the grave. For while it is true that you can’t take
anything with you when you go – there are no pockets in grave clothes –
while this is very true, actually we do take something with us when we go:
we take faith, hope and love, and the greatest of these is love.

For each of us has a beginning a middle and an end, and when we are living
the middle we don’t pay much attention to the beginning nor the end,
except perhaps in Lent. And the story of the universe has a beginning, a
middle and an end, and it’s true, we don’t often think about that, living as
we do, about 4.5 billion years after our sun came into existence, with about
4.5 billion years to go – that is, we are slap bang in the middle of a cosmic
story whose beginning and end we barely comprehend. The death of the
planet, solar system or universe is something very strange to us. Yet we all
face death all the time: not just when Mary, or David or Alan or anyone else
takes their leave of us, but also at any time. Whenever we cross the road,
run down the stairs, get in a plane, we look death in the eye, assuming
casually that we are going to win.

We are not going to win. The Victor over death is not me or you, but Jesus
Christ, the alpha and omega – there from the beginning, present among us
and waiting to embrace us in resurrection life. So we are in what the
German theologians call die mitte der zeit – the middle time, between
incarnation and salvation. We have seen salvation with our eyes, and yet
we still wait for it. It is both now, and not yet. Beginnings, middles and
endings, we are surrounded by them. And yet, all of them are filled, from
the beginning and to the end with those three: Faith, Hope and Love. These
are what brought us to being. These are what we live by, and these three
will sustain us as we depart in peace. Faith – Hope – Love. And the greatest
of these is love.

Every Blessing,

Mike

December Letter 2019

Dear Friends,

Like many households up and down the land the Vicarage household is eagerly awaiting the release of Frozen II – the latest Disney blockbuster. I remember well watching the original film on loop with Sophie, when she was younger, in the early hours of the morning when she not aware that 4am was not the time to get up and play!

For those who have not seen Frozen it is an adaptation of Hans Christian Anderson’s story The Snow Queen. A kingdom is turned into disarray as, at the hands of its Queen, it becomes a winter wonderland in the height of summer. Princess Anna, Queen Elsa’s sister, tries to remedy the situation but in the process becomes mortally wounded. But that doesn’t stop her from first saving the Queen – her sister who wounded her – from being slain by the sword by an ambitious Prince before she dies. At the end of the story the kingdom is returned to summer, Anna returns to life, and relationships are restored. It is a story of love, sacrifice, honour, friendship, fear, and hope.

As I write, our Nation is gearing up for another General Election. The Country is polarised and The Union is under threat. The aforementioned values of Frozen seem so far from our current climate where so much of our public rhetoric and discourse is about division, mistrust, and greed to name but three. We have just observed Remembrance Sunday and honoured the sacrifice made by former generations but it is questionable whether we, as a society, would be prepared to make that sacrifice again if required.

In 2003 a pop group: The Black Eyed Peas released a song entitled Where is the Love? This question taunts me. Like the pop group, and you, I see events played out in the News: terrorism, neglect, abuse, murder, greed, betrayal, corruption, violence, religious and hate crimes, and I ask myself ‘where is the love?’ There are no easy
answers to the many problems in the world, but as Christians we can at least offer an answer the question posed by that pop group.

Love came down at Christmas. Love, in God incarnate, was born among us in a stable in Bethlehem. Love chose the path of humility and sacrifice by deigning to be born of simple country folk, living as one of us, setting an example of Godly living, and teaching and giving the values of The Kingdom. Love, knowing the cost of freedom and restoring the divine/human relationship, sacrificially gave himself over to being brutally executed. But that wasn’t the end. Love rose from the dead so that we too might share in the resurrection and the glory of God’s Kingdom. Love releases us from the bondage of sin and transforms us into being heralds of God’s Kingdom.

And so when I see the News and become downhearted I am reminded of the millions of people who recognise love in the face of the babe of Bethlehem, Jesus Christ, and who in simple but powerful acts of kindness and generosity live the values of his Kingdom. I’m reminded of the people who befriend the lonely. I’m reminded of the people who take complete strangers to medical appointments. I’m reminded of the people who feed the hungry, shelter the homeless, and clothe the naked. I’m reminded of the people who campaign for justice and equality for all regardless of the personal cost to themselves. I’m reminded of the people who say their prayers faithfully for those who are sick or in need in any way. I’m reminded of those who simply smile at someone and who try to be a blessing in God’s name to those around them. I am reminded that love came among us and that we too can radiate that gift of love among us.

Love came down at Christmas. And Love is God’s gift to you again this Christmas… and every Christmas… and every day for that matter. In the power of God’s love let us continue in those simple acts of kindness and generosity and together reveal something more of his love, light, and life in the world around us.

I wish you all a very happy and holy Christmas and every Blessing for the New Year.

In Christ,

Mike

November Letter 2019

Dear Friends,

November is a time and a season of remembering in many ways.

As I was reflecting on this a memory kept coming to mind. It was of an occasion when I met my great grandmother for what was, as far as I know, the first and only time. I was in my early teens and as the eldest sibling, was deemed old enough to know the secret that she was in fact my Nan’s mother. I was forbidden to tell my younger brother and sister. It was strange meeting this frail old woman and not be able to acknowledge our relationship. Her story was of its time: as a pregnant teenage girl she was sent away to avoid family shame and arrangements were made for her baby to be brought up in another town. But I remember her now with thanks for who she was.

Much later, I think no more than twelve years ago, we finally learned the identity of my Nan’s father and what became of him. He was a teenage boy at the time, His family moved soon afterwards and a few years later he sailed for Australia, where he joined the army and was posted to France as an Acting Lance Corporal in the 11th Battalion, Australian Infantry. He died on 15 April 1917, during the Battle of Lagnicourt. He has no known grave but is commemorated at the Villers-Bretonneaux Memorial, France. Now every November, when we remember those who gave their lives in times of war and conflict, I remember him – even though for most of my life I did not even know his name. I remember him as someone who through the chain of life, gave me life.

Our remembering during November may take several different forms and reasons: some very personal, others more communal. The month begins as in our churches we celebrate All Saints’ Day when we remember and celebrate men and women in whose lives the Church as a whole has seen the grace of God powerfully at work. We give thanks for the examples and encouragement of their lives. Then on All Souls Day, we remember with thanksgiving before God those whom we have known more directly: those who gave us life, or who nurtured us in faith.

As the month ends, we will be on the edge of a new Church Year, about to step into Advent and our remembering will be a time of preparation as we turn again to the story of another pregnant teenage girl, who had the courage and blessing to bear God’s Son to the world. A son who came to bring life to the world and for each of us who choose to believe in who he was and to remember him.

This month in all our remembering may we have cause to give thanks.

With Best Wishes,

Ruth

September Letter 2019

Dear Friends,

So what is it with all this ‘busyness’? Why are we planning all these activities? And who are they for? As is so often the case, simple enough questions don’t lead to simple answers. Is all this for the benefit of the congregations of this parish? Well, yes. We will enjoy taking part in all the things that are planned for the coming months, whether it be a Patronal Festival, Harvest Festival, Messy Church, Confirmation Service, Remembrance-tide, a Christmas Tree Festival, the Christmas fair or a Carol Service or any other of the dozens of things scheduled to take place over the coming months.

So the question you should ask yourself as you read through all the events of the coming months is not really: ‘Do I want to come to that?’ It is rather: ‘Who am I going to invite to come with me to this or that event?’ By approaching things from this angle we start to engage in the most fundamental activity of the Church – namely MISSION.

Every Blessing,

Mike